Another pregnant whilst job hunting post…

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I wouldn’t mention it at the interview. I would mention it after you accept their offer, start the job, and when you are ready to share your due date and discuss leave. 

From multiple HR points, I’ve been told it’s not their business to know during your interview and places them at a disadvantage for hiring. If they interview two people (one being pregnant and one not), it can put them in an awkward position with anti discrimination laws and concern over if their choice of the person not pregnant will create lawsuits even if chosen for reasons not pertaining to pregnancy. There is also nothing different from them hiring you currently pregnant to hiring you and you getting pregnant in the following months. So, no, it is not necessary to disclose during your interview and you shouldn’t feel deceitful. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

MeandYou :  I wouldn’t personally disclose unless you have a written offer or proof of getting the job by starting it. That way if you are unfortunate to be with a company that does discriminate during hiring, you have proof they offered you the job and then revoked it due to discrimination. 

However, it’s entirely up to you when you want to share. Most people I know waited until after their orientation day.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree that you absolutely should not feel any qualms about hiding it until after your first day on the job. The discrimination we have to fear as women is disgusting.

If you don’t mind the question, what steps are you taking to conceal? I’m a teacher and will be at 23 weeks by the end of this school year, and it will be super in my favour to hide it until then. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

MeandYou :  I was hired at my first full time when I was 7 months pregnant.  I hid the pregnancy for about two weeks before it was too obvious.  For my second job, I was hired on at 8 weeks pregnant.  And I told my boss within a week.  Only because I just found out and wanted to be honest.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was offered a job right after I found out I was pregnant. I let them know after I received the offer. I felt bad not being honest with them. They still offered it to me after they found out, but I decided to stay at my current job in the end.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would wait it out as long as possible personally. If they have an HR department, I’d probably go to them first.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Congrats on your interview and pregnancy! Just a reminder about maternity leave – FMLA entitles you to 12 weeks of unpaid leave, but is only applicable to businesses with more than 50 employees. If they’re smaller than 50 employees, they aren’t required to hold your place for you if you go on leave. 

Companies that do offer maternity leave typically require that you’re employed for at least a year prior to offering it. So while they may offer it regardless, that isn’t guaranteed.

That said, I definitely agree with PP about hiding your pregnancy. It protects both parties from discrimination. I’m not even TTC yet (I’m still only at the stage where I debate keeping my engagement ring on for interviews), but it does seem like the U.S. is horrendous at dealing with family leave.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

harmonicsoul :  Actually, FMLA doesn’t even apply until you’ve worked somewhere for a year. So save up those vacation days!! 

Post # 13
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1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

MeandYou :  I’m pretty much in the same situation (Canada, up to one year leave, 6 months’ probation) and I’m banking on the fact that it would look SO BAD for a workplace to fire you for a made-up reason right after you disclosed a pregnancy…right?

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