Post # 1
Currently 23 weeks
I have an interview this week for a job I’d love
IF I’m offered it, when do you suggest I spill the beans?
I feel deceitful but I really must have a job. They may know I’m pg but I’m taking lots of steps to conceal.
Post # 2
I wouldn’t mention it at the interview. I would mention it after you accept their offer, start the job, and when you are ready to share your due date and discuss leave.
From multiple HR points, I’ve been told it’s not their business to know during your interview and places them at a disadvantage for hiring. If they interview two people (one being pregnant and one not), it can put them in an awkward position with anti discrimination laws and concern over if their choice of the person not pregnant will create lawsuits even if chosen for reasons not pertaining to pregnancy. There is also nothing different from them hiring you currently pregnant to hiring you and you getting pregnant in the following months. So, no, it is not necessary to disclose during your interview and you shouldn’t feel deceitful.
Post # 3
soymilk : so tell them after being a week or so in the job as opposed to on the phone after the verbal offer?
I figured if I did the latter they would have potentially someone else to offer maternity cover to.
This is all presuming I’m even offered it!
Post # 4
MeandYou : I wouldn’t personally disclose unless you have a written offer or proof of getting the job by starting it. That way if you are unfortunate to be with a company that does discriminate during hiring, you have proof they offered you the job and then revoked it due to discrimination.
However, it’s entirely up to you when you want to share. Most people I know waited until after their orientation day.
Post # 5
I agree that you absolutely should not feel any qualms about hiding it until after your first day on the job. The discrimination we have to fear as women is disgusting.
If you don’t mind the question, what steps are you taking to conceal? I’m a teacher and will be at 23 weeks by the end of this school year, and it will be super in my favour to hide it until then.
Post # 6
MeandYou : I was hired at my first full time when I was 7 months pregnant. I hid the pregnancy for about two weeks before it was too obvious. For my second job, I was hired on at 8 weeks pregnant. And I told my boss within a week. Only because I just found out and wanted to be honest.
Post # 7
I was offered a job right after I found out I was pregnant. I let them know after I received the offer. I felt bad not being honest with them. They still offered it to me after they found out, but I decided to stay at my current job in the end.
Post # 8
MrsSnowMountain : I’ll be wearing two types of control underwear and a pair of black tights. A loose fitting jacket seems to disguise the bulge.
I’m not obviously big yet unless I wear tight fitting clothes. I may not pull the wool over their eyes!
I agree with u about the discrimination. I’m going to lengths I just shouldn’t have to to hide a wanted pregnancy. Men don’t have to worry about any of this shit.
It’s still a man’s world sadly.
Post # 9
I would wait it out as long as possible personally. If they have an HR department, I’d probably go to them first.
Post # 10
Congrats on your interview and pregnancy! Just a reminder about maternity leave – FMLA entitles you to 12 weeks of unpaid leave, but is only applicable to businesses with more than 50 employees. If they’re smaller than 50 employees, they aren’t required to hold your place for you if you go on leave.
Companies that do offer maternity leave typically require that you’re employed for at least a year prior to offering it. So while they may offer it regardless, that isn’t guaranteed.
That said, I definitely agree with PP about hiding your pregnancy. It protects both parties from discrimination. I’m not even TTC yet (I’m still only at the stage where I debate keeping my engagement ring on for interviews), but it does seem like the U.S. is horrendous at dealing with family leave.
Post # 11
harmonicsoul : Actually, FMLA doesn’t even apply until you’ve worked somewhere for a year. So save up those vacation days!!
Post # 12
I’m very fortunate to live in the UK so I can have up to a year off on mat leave.
I will get an allowance each month.
My only concern is that the post is permanent but subject to a 6 month probationary period.
If I get the job, I won’t be there long enough to complete the probation period.
Post # 13
MeandYou : I’m pretty much in the same situation (Canada, up to one year leave, 6 months’ probation) and I’m banking on the fact that it would look SO BAD for a workplace to fire you for a made-up reason right after you disclosed a pregnancy…right?
Post # 14
MrsSnowMountain : it would but…
They had lots of interviewees so I don’t think I’ll have to worry about fessing up to anything!