(Closed) ANOTHER promise ring?!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think you should ask him if its to keep stalling? I am sorry though. :/ 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Depending on your relationship… I would ask him about it.  Especially if you guys did communicate a timeline, to which he says you would be engaged by the end of the year.  Maybe that’s his way of saying you are engaged?  I’m not sure on this one.  I am just as confused as you are ๐Ÿ™   I would definately be thinking “what the heck?” on that one!  

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ugh i feel bad for you.. As if having a child isnt promise enough! You need a real ring honey! You should definitely open communication lines with him and approach him in a way that won’t make him defensive or feel bad about not proposing.. It could just cause a fight!  But you deserve to know where this is going!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I also think you should just come right out and ask him about it. Say exactly what you said to us.

“Why would you buy me a second promise ring when our engagement is right around the corner?”

Easy enough, right? I am interested to see what he says. Maybe he is too nervous to go through with actually asking?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe he gave you this ring as an ering and was feeling your reaction if it was what you wanted? Maybe he used it as a gauge to see how much more he should be putting into the ering he’s looking for? Sometimes they just want to get that perfect ring and this was his tester. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Good luck on a real ring asap! 

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

“You said you plan on proposing. We have a child together. Why are we still doing the promise ring routine, just propose already.”

I understand your frustration. This isn’t high school, you guys have a baby together.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yeah…I don’t understand what he’s doing there.

If he’s already promised you that he intends to marry you and he has the dough for a ring that would suffice as an engagement ring, then why not just call it a proposal?

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@sunshine_kar: That’s a tough one.  I think the best way to find out what he’s thinking is to ask him.  Just tell him the second promise ring has confused you and you want to know if everything you talked about and planned still stands.  Or if the second “promise ring” was meant to be an engagement ring?  Boys are strange…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

went through the same kind of situation with my Fiance…we dont have a child together by i do have a son from a previous relationship that my Fiance and i raise together. he only gave me 1 PR….i stated to him that i was an adult women, not a high school teen. i refused to wear the ring. needless to say after a long week of talking, questioning his motives and lots of crying he FINALLY understood where i was coming from. he proposed 2 mths later on our ann ๐Ÿ™‚

Dont bite your tounge GIRL!!! SAY SOMETHING! 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

what exactly did he say when he gave it to you – ive never seen a promise ring so im a bit confused how a guy gives someone a significant ring purchase and it not be an engagment ring

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

hmmmmmmmmmm – i would be kicking his arse and saying im too old to for a promise ring but ive been told im also pretty blunt ๐Ÿ™‚

personally i think a promise ring at this stage of your life is a bit insulting – although he no doubt thinks he was doing something very sweet.  im guessing hes pretty comfortable where things are and needs a push to get off the comfy chair to the marriage discussion table. 

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