Post # 1
I know all of my questions sound incredibly stupid but I have not been to a lot of weddings over the years and since I’ve never planned one before, this is all VERY confusing.
For the reception, we are going to have about 60 – 70 people. I have no idea how things are suppose to be set up so we were just going to do the “head table” for the bride and groom which will be a rectangle table and then arrange circle tables that seat 8 people each in a big half-circle around it…like a half-moon kinda thing. In the middle will be 2 rectangle tables (see crude draft below). I was going to tell his kids and my kids to sit at the rectangle tables and then let eveyone else sit wherever they wanted. Should I do a seating chart? What are the benefits of doing one? Is there anyone out there not doing a seating chart or cards? Help! 🙁
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Post # 3
I’m in the same boat!! I don’t know if I should do a seating chart or not. I have only been to a few weddings, and neither of them had seating charts or anything like that. I’m having my ceremony in a restaurant/lounge so I’m not sure where I should seat everyone cuz there’s a fair amount of booths. I look forward to seeing other people’s opinions on this matter!
Post # 4
@Bostonsmom:Same thing here! The few weddings/receptions I have been to, there were no seating charts. Maybe you only do seating charts if you are doing a really really formal reception??? IDK.
Also…whole other subject…I am still trying to decide what to do about food! I was thinking since we are doing a very small beach wedding (immediate family only) with the reception to follow, maybe we should just do finger foods (pinwheels, small wraps, popcorn chicken, veggies…that kind of thing) or should we do a hot buffet (pasta, some kind of chicken dish, etc). I am so lost it is not even funny!!!
Post # 5
hmmm…looks like maybe most people are doing a seating chart??? I have no idea where to even begin on this one! Do I seat his kids with my kids so they can get to know each other or just let them sit wherever they want?
Ok…his idea of going to Vegas is SERIOUSLY starting to look appealing! 🙁
Post # 6
I am a fan of seating charts… It can get awkward if a family of 4 wants to sit together, but there aren’t 4 seats open at 1 table because you’ve let people choose their own seats.
That’s just how I feel about it though and I do know lots of people who haven’t done seating charts and haven’t had a problem! Could the kids each sit with their respective grandparents? Just so they know someone? I don’t know anything about your kids, how old they are, etc… That would make a difference on who I would seat them with.
Post # 7
Do a seating chart! Why? Because #1 it’s less awkward for people. When there’s no seating chart it becomes very “school yard” of who sits where. #2 you can make sure all your tables are filled up. When people sit themselves you can have random seats left unfilled. and #3 it’ll make serving the food easier if you know what table has what food coming to them. and #4 you can ensure everyone is sitting with people they know.
Post # 8
Please do a seating chart. It makes everything so much less awkward and more comfortable for your guests. My biggest piece of advice is don’t over think it. People will be sitting eating together for probably 45 minutes and then up dancing – not enough time for serious meaningful conversation where people get to really know each other. But, enough time where guests shouldn’t be worrying about where to sit.