(Closed) Another RSVP question–is this too much?

posted 4 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I like it. I debating about doing wording like this on our response cards and ultimately decided to go with a more simple approach. I am totally regretting that decision. Now that I’m getting my RSVP’s back, I’m shocked that some of my guests are tacking on their kids (who were NOT invited) and plus that’s that were not extended. Don’t worry about the wording being overkill, take the safe route!!!

Post # 4
12610 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s fine!  – But FWIW, I didn’t have a single guest tack on extra people.


I do, however, think you may want to reconsider your RSVP date.  If your caterer requires a final number a week or two weeks prior, you will have no time to track down those inevitable non-responders!


Post # 5
4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

How about we have reserved ___ SEATS in your HONOR.


Also, it looks like you’re asking how many will attend twice…

Post # 6
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do it! I didn’t do it that way and I wish I had!

Some people just added their own guests.. and I had a space that said # of guests attending, so when they wrote their name on the top line and 1 there, I didn’t know if the one was just them or if they were adding a guest. I almost assumed that 1 was for themself (as I intended), but I’m glad I didn’t assume, because I would have been wrong in many cases!

Post # 7
1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it is a little overkill. I debated about doing this, but decided against it – partly because we are having a sit-down dinner and guests needed to select their entree and it was just too much to put on the rsvp card. I just did:

Kindly respond by July 1

M ________________

____ Accept _____ Decline


I haven’t really had any issues with people tacking on extra people – we made it known among our family and friends via word of mouth that kids were NOT invited, and we addressed the invitations only to their parents. No issues so far. 

Post # 10
12610 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureMrsJohnston:  My wedding was 3/16, and we had our RSVP date for 2/16.  My caterer required the final number 7 days out, which gave me one extra week to track people down.  It worked well for us. 

Post # 12
7106 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it’s over kill to have number attending and attending. We didn’t have problems with that as people just wrote the names of everyone coming. I do think it’s a good idea to have “seats reserved” though. Even with that we had a few people add someone so I wonder what would have happened if we didn’t have it.

When do you need final numbers to your caterer? It took over a week to track people down. We waited a few days for stragglers and then had problems getting into contact with people. We had an RSVP date two weeks before final numbers were due and three weeks before the wedding.

Post # 14
8012 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


change to kindly respond by January 11, 2014.


the thing i don’t like about we have reserved X seats in your honor, is that from what i have seen on the bee, if boyfriend, husband, etc can’t make it, they think they can bring someone else and rsvp for that person.

etitquette dicates that who is on the invitation is who is invited.

therefore, i would take off X seats have been reserved… if peole respond back with multiple people or someone who you didn’t invite, you just need to call them and set them straight.


Post # 15
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@FutureMrsJohnston:  These were ours and we did not have one issue! They worked out great 🙂


We have reserved ____ seats in your honor.

      Name:                                   Will be attending

                                                In person    In spirit





Then there was a little check box for each line and they checked in person or in spirit

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