(Closed) Another RSVP rant

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@serendipity9.8:  I guess you need to learn to read minds. 🙂 I totally understand. Our date is 3 months away, but we sent out our invites uber early because half of our guests were Out of Town. I am still waiting on hearing from people, but come a month before I think I will have some ranting to do as well.

Post # 4
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8341 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I totally feel your pain. We are going to a wedding two weeks before ours that is a lot of the same people, and the bride couldn’t even bother to send our rsvp back! We had to have Future Mother-In-Law call and find out if she and her new hubby are coming…

Post # 6
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel your pain! Our RSVP date was Saturday, we still have 40 invites that are MIA! Now we have people calling our immediate family, confirming with them that they are coming! Guh! Its our wedding, shouldnt you be calling us? And now people who were unable to come are calling and saying they are coming? oh my! :o)

Post # 7
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s frustrating when you’re trying to plan and you just want people to respond – but if your wedding date is really Sept. 8, you’re over a month away. (though JUST barely!!)  That’s kind of early for an RSVP deadline.  Usually your venue/caterer needs a headcount 2 weeks in advance, if you build in about 5 days or a week of “margin” to follow up that still puts a deadline for RSVPs at 3 weeks prior to an event.

You might actually have a couple guests who don’t know if they can get the time off work just yet.  (Especially if they’re within driving distance.) 

The waiting can be tough – but these are people you care about and who care about you – they (probably) aren’t TRYING to make you go crazy!

Post # 8
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am so right there with you! Our wedding is a month away and we still have a huge list of people who haven’t responded. Complicating matters further is the hotel reservations. Our wedding is in a relatively remote location and most of our guests need to stay there that night. I don’t understand why adults can’t make a decision about whether they would like to attend our wedding and whether they would like a hotel room that night.

I told my fiance last night that no matter what, we will always RSVP right away when we get a wedding inviation in the future!

Post # 9
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1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Soooo many people assumed they did not have to RSVP for our wedding because we should “know they were coming.”  Except there were so many people that I thought were coming that couldn’t and vice versa.  So how should I know that?!

Post # 11
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100 posts
Blushing bee

2 ppl brought their rsvp cards to our wedding. =(

Post # 12
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel ya 100% on this issue! SOO frustrating, and it literally takes 2 minutes to RSVP! My wedding is next saturday and I STILLLLL have people who keep changing there RSVP to yes then to no then to yes again.. I’m trying to learn to just laugh it off but its like comeeee onnnn!!!!

Post # 13
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally feel your pain-Our “RSVP by” date is in eleven days, and out of 60 we’ve gotten 10 back. I even put postage on the postcards! All they had to do was check yes or no and drop it in the mail!

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