Post # 1
We’re just starting to get RSVPs back and there are already so many things that need to be followed up on.
-the first people to RSVP did is via website (we’re giving both options) and only included their childrens names. Are you sending them by themselves and not attending?
-Relatives of FIs I’ve never met sent their RSVP back and added a third person & I have no idea who it is. As far as I know they have no children and the last name is different from theirs. I facebook stalked and still no idea who this person is
-My sister sent a note in her RSVP wanting to know if a close friend of hers can come & her children. What?
-Got an RSVP back that says 2 are attending but he didn’t include the name for his plus one so we’ll have to track that down for the seating chart
-One family RSVP’d for 8 people and I have no idea exactly who. I purposely addressed theirs to “The X Family” (one of the few invites I didn’t specify exactly who is invited) because they have a weird afmily dymanic and drama and just wanted to leave that open for them. But I still need to know names!
-There’s still one address we haven’t been able to get. He moved after Save-The-Date Cards went out & fell off the face of the earth. Not answering texts, phone calls, social media messages. But people are telling to “just pexect that he’ll show becaue he’s like that” Ummm that’s not how this works.
I know a lot of these are common and we’ll follow up with everyone and sort it out but this is just in the first week! Ughhh I need wine. Okay vent over. Anyone else with annoying RSVP issues right now
Post # 2
We had guests RSVP just for their children (teens). Apparently, the parents were going to be out of town, but the teens could still come. They no-showed the day of.
Post # 3
We had someone RSVP and instead of writing his name he just wrote “Hmmm”. Fortunately, we were able to track down who it was. It’s not that hard to write your name!
Post # 4
Remember this when it comes to teaching etiquette if you have children. It seems to have skipped a generation or two.
Post # 5
I know how you feel…… thankfully I numbered all the RSVP cards and created a little chart so when people who dont write their names down respond, I know who they are. (it’s already happened twice and we just sent out the invitations last week)
Post # 6
To cut down on work for yourself, you don’t necessarily have to follow up on plus-one’s names. Your escort card can say “John Smith and guest” or just “John Smith” and have two seats allotted for them at that table. This has been done at weddings I’ve attended and nobody was confused. You could probably do this for the family of 8, too – an inclusive escort card that says “Jones family.” Try not to get too upset about that, if you didn’t bother to specify names on the invitation it probably didn’t occur to them to do it in their reply. 🙂
Post # 7
I am having the same issues. We also have people who have told our parents or friends that they’re coming but haven’t actually RSVP’d. I’m finding the guest list/ RSVP one of the most frustrating things about planning a wedding.
Post # 8
I agree! we were having troubles with plus 1 names as well.. and some decided to change last min (breakups, whatever…) so i ended up just doing out seating chart on this past weekend and i wrote
John smith (guest)
and then there are no guesses haha
Post # 9
Oh my…at least I’m not alone! I’ve been posting on here for weeks now about all our RSVP drama. It’s been driving me batty!
Just yesterday (reception is this Saturday) my aunt called me to ask if we could add two more people to the guestlist. These are two people that I don’t even know, have never heard of, and are not family in any sense but are friends of my aunt and I guess they’ll be in town this weekend and she wanted to be able to see them. I told her we were at capacity, so no. She was understanding but at the same time…what?!?!