(Closed) Another RSVP vent!

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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anonbee4321:  We had guests RSVP just for their children (teens). Apparently, the parents were going to be out of town, but the teens could still come. They no-showed the day of.

Post # 3
24 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

We had someone RSVP and instead of writing his name he just wrote “Hmmm”. Fortunately, we were able to track down who it was. It’s not that hard to write your name!

Post # 4
47407 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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anonbee4321:  Remember this when it comes to teaching etiquette if you have children. It seems to have skipped a generation or two.

Post # 5
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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anonbee4321:  I know how you feel…… thankfully I numbered all the RSVP cards and created a little chart so when people who dont write their names down respond, I know who they are. (it’s already happened twice and we just sent out the invitations last week)


Post # 6
1633 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

To cut down on work for yourself, you don’t necessarily have to follow up on plus-one’s names. Your escort card can say “John Smith and guest” or just “John Smith” and have two seats allotted for them at that table. This has been done at weddings I’ve attended and nobody was confused. You could probably do this for the family of 8, too – an inclusive escort card that says “Jones family.” Try not to get too upset about that, if you didn’t bother to specify names on the invitation it probably didn’t occur to them to do it in their reply. 🙂

Post # 7
4 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016

I am having the same issues. We also have people who have told our parents or friends that they’re coming but haven’t actually RSVP’d. I’m finding the guest list/ RSVP one of the most frustrating things about planning a wedding. 

Post # 8
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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GreenGables:  I agree!  we were having troubles with plus 1 names as well.. and some decided to change last min (breakups, whatever…) so i ended up just doing out seating chart on this past weekend and i wrote 



John smith

John smith (guest)


and then there are no guesses haha


Post # 9
6947 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Oh my…at least I’m not alone! I’ve been posting on here for weeks now about all our RSVP drama. It’s been driving me batty!

Just yesterday (reception is this Saturday) my aunt called me to ask if we could add two more people to the guestlist. These are two people that I don’t even know, have never heard of, and are not family in any sense but are friends of my aunt and I guess they’ll be in town this weekend and she wanted to be able to see them. I told her we were at capacity, so no. She was understanding but at the same time…what?!?!

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