(Closed) Another “Should I allow a person to come?” post…(VERY VERY long, sorry!)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we let the loser come?
    Yes, her being comfortable means more than anything : (1 votes)
    13 %
    Nope, he doesn't deserve to be there : (6 votes)
    75 %
    I don't know, I'm torn too : (1 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    This seems pretty clear cut to me, although lying to Rose hasn’t really helped your case.  Rather than laying into her, I think next time she asks you should say:

    “Rose, we adore you and your children and consider you family.  But we both find it extremely difficult to imagine Dick attending our wedding.  The fact is that the point of a wedding is celebrating the commitment of two people to each other through MARRIAGE.  And Dick is MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELSE.  It would be desecrating everything that our wedding is about to invite him at all, and frankly he’s not being fair to you or the children either, but that isn’t our business.  What is our business is our guest list for our wedding, and I’m very sorry but he is NOT on it.  We don’t expect him to understand, but we would still really love for you and the kids to be there.  You are, afterall, our family.”

    Whatever you do say, I think it’s important you have it written down so that you don’t have to think about what you’re saying.  Read it like a script and stick to it.  No matter how she guilts you, she should be pushing HIM more to get divorced!

    PS-What a total d-bag.

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