(Closed) Another "Should I Invite Them" Question

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am sorry for your loss but congratulations on your upcoming wedding. If day invite who you wish without any guilt. 18 years is a long time for them to treat you as if your not part of the family!

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t think you have to worry about including some and not others in this case. You’re not close with that side of the family and really have no connection to them anymore. His mom’s side however has become your family and close friends so I would definitely invite them and not worry about “offending” his other cousins or step-siblings. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

It’s your wedding- invite who you want! I don’t see a problem with just inviting a few of the cousins rather than all of them. They will understand… you weren’t even invited to the reunion!

Post # 5
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

First, sorry to hear about your husbands passing. It’s great though that you can still be close to some of his family.

I dont think not inviting everyone would be rude at all… just invite the ones you are close with. You are under no obligation to invite the entire family. I dont think people will care or make as much of a big deal about it as you think they will… just invite who YOU want to be there!

Post # 6
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7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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xstitchgal75:  Sorry for your loss but I am pleased to hear you have found someone new and are getting married, congratultions. I would look at this group of people as aquantences and not “family” if you like them, sure, great, invite them, if you aren’t that close and they haven’t appeared to give a flying F about you the last 20 years – don’t invite them. They have no right to get upset.

Post # 7
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10286 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

18 years of ignoring you, and you then suffered the loss of your then DH = You can invite anyone you want to invite.

Congrats and I’m so happy you are still close to his mom. 

Post # 8
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304 posts
Helper bee

Agreed. I say to invite those who you feel close to and wish to invite. My parents were married for 13 years when my mom passed away and 13 years after that, my dad married my step-mom. He invited some of my mom’s family- the ones who have stayed close to us all throughout our lives, even after she was gone. For example, my mom’s brother still considers my dad his brother and vice versa- they are super close so of course he was there. She has another brother who is never around and we don’t speak to- he did not get an invite (or was even told of any happenings because we don’t talk). Invite who you are close to and who you want to be there on your day.

Post # 9
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38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m truly sorry for the loss of your first DH. Good for you for bring willing to put yourself back out there to love again. Congratulations on the up coming wedding.

I to agree with the other bees. Invite who you wish. Don’t guilt yourself into feeling obligated to invite them. Be honest do you really want to spend the money that it would involve to have them as guests or the stress of them being there if they came? 

Post # 10
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391 posts
Helper bee

In your case I would invite those who you are close to. I’d avoid creating awkward situations….likE inviting half of a household. But otherwise I wouldnt worry about it. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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xstitchgal75:  I think that you should invite whoever YOU want. You are by no means obligated to invite any of them.

Maybe you can talk to your mother in law and see what she thinks.

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