- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
We are half way through our wedding planning. We have been engaged since June, planning since September & have 6 months left. Now, we are strongly considering eloping.
I have several reasons for wanting to elope. First of all, I spend half the time spending all this money, thinking to myself, “There is so much else I can do with this…” I would love to have an awesome wedding day but sometimes, I have a tough time justifying to myself why I am spending so many hours on one day of my life. Second, in addition to the reservations I have already had, life threw a couple things our way that we were completely unprepared for and are quite costly, so we are having to take money out of our wedding budget and find ways to cut costs. This is already a budget wedding, costing only around $12,000. I don’t think there are too many places left we can cut.
We can get some but not all of our money back for things. After adding it up, even if we just cut our losses at this point but get back what we can, then do the elopement, it will cut the costs in half.
Also, one of our cars just went down, completely unexpected, and we have been wanting to replace our truck for ages. I have been putting off going back to school full time to save money for it. We actually have a decent amount of debt and I feel like it would be smarter to just pay this off with the money rather than slowly chipping away at it. We really want to buy a house in the next couple of years and our money would be better spent getting our credit in line, and working on the down payment.
Due to the money issues, the planning process has become more stressful at this point than exciting.
Then there are all the reasons I don’t want to elope…
Whether I invite my family or not, I know most of them cannot afford to go. Same with about half of our bridal party, not to mention that some of them have kids & it would be tough for them to get away.
We have already invested money & time in to the wedding.
I am afraid of hurting people’s feelings.
Some people have already arranged for their weekend accomodations (although I think they can get a refund). The bridesmaid dresses are all purchased (although we bought them as our gift to them).
Our bridal parties are really excited and have already begun to plan things like the bridal shower. I spoke with my Maid of Honor last night about how I am feeling, and she was definitely nice about the whole idea of eloping but was very discouraging.
We have already registered for gifts and sent our Save the Dates.
We have a beautiful venue & I have been so excited. I feel like I am missing out by not getting married there.
Then, most two most important things:
1.) My future husband it completely supportive of what I want to do and tells me that whatever I want to do, is fine with him. However, in our discussions, he has told me he wouuld rather elope due to costs & stress.
2.) I am so afraid of regretting it! I don’t want to spend the rest of my life wishing I had had the big wedding…
I am so confused.