Post # 1
I need your advice because I don’t want to step on any toes or seem like a greedy bride!
I am having a shower, thrown by my Maid/Matron of Honor, in Kansas City, at the end of May. At first it was the only “shower” I was having. I had planned on inviting my aunts, bms, FI’s mom and sister, and friends that live in KC. I have two questions:
1) Should I invite FI’s aunts? Most of them live in MI, none of them live near Kansas City. His side of the family is not throwing me a shower.
2) Fiance and I have a small group of friends that we have made since moving to KC. This group consists of 4 couples. Originally I was going to invite the wives/girlfriends to my shower but they have decided to have a “dinner” for us two weeks before the wedding (b/c not all of them will be able to attend the wedding). Should I still invite them to my MOHs shower…or will I seem greedy because they are hosting us in June?
Thanks so much for your advice!
Post # 3
My understanding is that Bridal Showers are mainly for relatives of the Bride and her close/good friends.
I’m having two showers as well: one in April and one in July. The only long distance relatives I sent a shower invitation to were my grandmother and the groom’s grandmother because they specifically requested one even though they’ll be attending the shower closer to the wedding.
The best thing for uncertainty is to ask your Fiance and his mom. My FI’s mom called up her relatives for all things address/invite related. Hopefully, she’ll be happy to answer your questions and help you out. 🙂
Post # 4
Ok, I would say do not invite the aunts. If they live in MI, I don’t think they’d come for the shower. And it might come across like you’re just looking for a gift, knowing they’ll probably decline. (Not that you are.) But maybe you should ask Future Mother-In-Law. Sometimes families are weird and people get offended if they are invited.
I would also probably just leave off the friends who are hosting a dinner for you. But I’m not really sure on that one. And are these gals you friends, or just that they’re the SOs of the friends? If you aren’t that close to them, I’d leave them off.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. I think I”m going to leave off the aunts…and as for the friends, I am not really CLOSE to 3 out of 4 of the girls…we seem at bars, parties, etc.
But, I am close with one of the girls, should I just invite her and not the other 3? Grr!