Post # 1
i know this is how it goes with destination weddings. first a few weeks ago my good friend since high school who i asked to officiate my wedding said she could no longer come 🙁
tonight, my friend who lives in New Zealand told me she can’t come 🙁 and this was after she ordered her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress and bought a plane ticket from my place in California to Jamaica – it cost her $250. she still hadn’t bought her ticket from New Zealand to California though so i knew it wasn’t 100% until that ticket was bought. but she was going to come here for a week and then we would travel to Jamaica together. now she finally realized she just can’t do it. i totally understand and since i got engaged i knew i could not expect her to come, even if i was not having a Destination Wedding…for her any location i pick would cost $2000 and up. but since she got the one plane ticket AND ordered her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, i was just really excited! more so to spend that week with her before the wedding….. not much i can do though, just feeling sad about it. she said she is going to look for seat sales and if she finds some amazing deal, she’ll take it. but i am not hopeful.
Post # 3
Oh no! that is so sad =( I hope she is able to make it somehow!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry. Destination weddings are amazing, but can be difficult for guests. Its good that you prepped yourself that this might happen, and hopefully be able to cope a little better. My friend got engaged a couple months before me, and is having a destination wedding in November. I feel terrible, but really can’t afford to go in planning for my own wedding.
In the end all you need is you and your fiance and the rest will fall into place. Lotsa luck and hugs
Post # 5
i am feeling more sad about this today than when i first found out she wasn’t coming 🙁
i know i said i understood and couldn’t expect her to come from NZ. today suddenly i am picturing the dance floor at my wedding without her (we LOVE to go out dancing) and it made me sad. then i picture my wedding pictures without her and it makes me more sad. then i start to feel angry like a baby because “i went all the way to NZ for HER wedding, why can’t she do the same for ME!” i know that is an unfair argument, because everyone’s situation and circumstances are different…. but i couldn’t help feeling a *little* resentful 🙁
guess i was just venting…..sigh.
Post # 6
@dynamic_duo: Oh I’m sorry to hear that… in saying that I am looking at pricing (not knowing your exact dates and most of the prices I am seeing are over $2000. Combined with a flagging economy over here I can certainly see how it would be difficult for it to pan out. Is there any way that you can involve her in the ceremony through technology – have digital streaming or someone Skyping the ceremony to her?
Post # 7
I know exactly how you feel. I have lived in Rome for six years, and my fiance is from here as well, so we are obviously getting married here. But my family is all from the west coast, so sadly four out of my five sister’s can’t make it, and no aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces or grandparents 🙁 Luckily I have a lot of friends here, but it’s not the same as family.
It’s hard… maybe have an informal reception back home for everybody else? I would do this too, except everybody is so spread out that I wouldnt know where to do it. For me it is even a bigger picture, having decided to live over here permantly, I have to accept that I will always be far from my family.
Wish I could say something that might help. I guess just remember the most important people are you and your fiance.
Post # 8
I’d feel the same way if I traveled to hers and she didn’t travel to mine. She should know the avarage price of tickets so she should have known if she would be able to to this in advance.
I’ve heard that airplane tickets are cheapest 8 weeks before the travel date so tell her that.
Post # 9
Oh man I’m sorry….:( I totally know how you feel. My sister/MOH can’t come to the wedding because she’ll be in basic training at the time and I’m pretty devastated. No dw for us but I am afraid a few key people might not show because they’re kind of far flung. Is money the reason she can’t go? Maybe you could help her out with the plane ticket from NZ to CA?
Post # 10
@dynamic_duo: I’m so sorry, that really sucks. DWs are so hard. One of my close friends is getting married in Aruba… but it’s a month before our wedding! I know we have plenty of time to save, but right now I’m not sure if we can make it down there… I’m so totally bummed about it and hate that I’ll be missing their wedding. 🙁
Post # 11
@Atalanta: she is not coming because she didn’t save money or what not. she just decided she wants to move back to Canada this summer (quite spontaneously), and since my wedding is in April, she can’t afford to come in April AND move back in July/August. that’s why she is not coming. so i can’t really argue with her life plans!
i will tell her about the 8 weeks thing, so thanks! she did say if the whole trip could cost $1500, then she could maybe swing it. so we are planning to check for seat sales, i just haven’t been very hopeful.
@kate169: i wish i could help, but right now i am stressed just about paying for the wedding. i am making an intern salary and currently Fiance does not have a job. he’s been going to interviews and stuff, but its proving harder than we thought. so there is no way we have a spare $2000!