(Closed) Another thank-you card question!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@red_rose:  It’s more personal if you list every item… However, I think most people understand if they give numerous items that they will get a general description of the gifts just because the bride has so many thank yous to write.

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh totally, it’s perfectly appropriate to categorize things, you don’t have to list each one. In fact on some of my less formal thank you’s I didn’t write specifically what they gave at all. I talked more about  the wedding and things I know are happening with them with a simple mention of gratitude for a kind gift.

As long as it’s personal and doesn’t sound like wording from a hallmark card you’re good. Being specific is sometimes nice but not a requirement as far as I’m concerned. I always try to think about what I would like to hear in a card, and I would definitely not want a list of the items I know I purchased followed by a stilted ‘thanks’. Personal is the way to go.

For example, one guest gave us a gorgeous bamboo cutting board, some bowls and an ice cream scoop. My thank you was something like. “I’m so glad you were able to make it to the wedding. It was great to see you! The cutting board you gave us is seriously my favorite gift. It’s beautiful and [DH] makes fun of me for not wanting to cut on it because it’s so gorgeous and I don’t want to mess it up. We are so grateful for your generosity and support from the very beginning. It really means a lot.”

I think thanks for their presence, support, kindness, etc. is just as much or more important than thanks for items given.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If writing a big list of names would make the note awkward, you could write…

“Thanks for the kitchen items.  The spatula is going to get a lot of use when Jimmy makes eggs on the weekends, and I can’t wait to put the baking pans/cooling rack into service.  Wish you lived closer and could have some of my famous cupcakes!…”  That sort of thing.

Even if they gave you a basket with 20 things in it, you should be able to explain why at least several of those things are especially appreciated without it being forced or fake.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree.  If you were given several items, you should be able to mention a few of the more memorable/exciting ones; or the ones you’re able to explain how you are looking forward to using them.  A more detailed mention is in order than “Thanks for the baking stuff” but no need to list “Dear Aunt Petunia, I really appreciated the 2 muffin tins, the whisk, the 2 inch spatula, the 3 inch spatula, the measuring cup….”

It is nice to mention how much you like an item and how you plan to use it though.

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