(Closed) another waiting vent unfortunately :/

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
54 posts
Worker bee

I hear ya! I’m in the same situation…just waiting! Sometimes it frustrates the life out of me that I have no in say in WHEN my life gets to move forward, but you know what…I know it will. And some day very soon, and then all the waiting and the wondering will be worth it because I’ll be engaged to be married to my ideal man. Hang on in there, it’s clearly coming some time soon so just keep focusing on yourself- get your body, skin and hair into tip top condition!- and try to take your mind off it. Enjoy your waiting time, you’ll never get to wait again!

Post # 6
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with PP It will happen eventually …I’m still waiting also. Its not fun, All my friends are getting engaged and having babies and all that fun stuff. me…nope just a live in Girlfriend lol UGH!

   focus on yourself for now! Good luck

Post # 7
79 posts
Worker bee

Sorry to hear you’re having a rough waiting day, I’m having a rough time too, some days are better than others but last night I started dwelling on it to the point where I couldn’t sleep and started feeling angry that SO seems to be taking his sweet time especially at our age. I gave him a two year timeline to be engaged and he agreed was reasonable (which is now only seven months away) but I want to smack him when he mentions wanting a child together because I’m 35 now, almost 36 and when you factor in a decent engagement period to plan a wedding and some time alone to enjoy as a married couple we’re knocking on the door of 38 to even start trying to conceive. I just don’t think he gets it.

I’ve been focusing on myself too and that’s really all you can do if you’ve made your desires known to get married. It’s hard when you are waiting for someone to play catch up to the plans you have been envisoning together for what seems like forever. It’s hard not to feel resentful when you see other couples taking that step and wondering why your man isn’t getting a move on.

Maybe making a list of things you would like to accomplish in a short time frame, say by end of summer and checking those things off will give you some feeling of control back in your life, I know the feeling of waiting is never too far from your mind, but it might help. I’m doing the same thing.


Post # 9
10 posts

omg girls, i am absolutely feeling the same! I think my proposal is coming this thursday on a 2 day trip to newport, RI and I have been dreaming of it for weeks now. I know he has the ring or at least it is at the jeweler but if it doesnt come this week I think heads will roll. What are these men waiting for? I recently went to a friends bridal shower and while very happy for them, it was a little painful to watch because my SO and I have been together longer and been through alot more and SHOULD be the ones getting married. But I digress, in due time. Just like you ladies, in due time, which is why we are the ladies in waiting.

Post # 10
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

He probably figured you were expecting it at Disney so he didn’t want to do it so he can completely surprise you and catch you off gaurd!

Post # 12
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m not trying to be mean, because I have my bad days too but STAY OFF THE BEE. You should really just stop doing anything wedding related for awhile, especially venting because it just makes you feel resentment towards him and not being enaged and you feel bummed. 

So just get immersed in a book or a tv show or something because you are driving yourself crazy. I did too, then I went off for a week and gained a new sense of calm and happiness in waiting. So just think about it. 

Best of luck and happiness, I really hope it does come soon! 

Post # 13
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Quackadoo:  I completely understand where you are coming from. First off, it’s incredibly difficult to wait around for something that I have no control over. I’m kind of an action person. When there’s a task to be completed, I’m in gear and ready to get things accomplished ASAP. My SO is a lot more laid back and takes his time. So I have a really hard time being patient for something I want so badly. Some days I just want to shake him and scream, WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU WAITING FOR?!!! I think it’s even harder to think the proposal is coming and be disappointed when it doesn’t come.

All you can really do is focus on yourself and let him do his thing. I bet he has a plan and it will be perfect when the time comes. I keep grinding my teeth and saying, patience is a virtue, patience is a virtue. Some days are better than others and at least you have the hive to vent to.

Until that pretty little ring finds your finger, do everything you can to keep positive!

Post # 16
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I completely understand… its frustrating to be waiting!

I have friends that have been engaged for over 6 months now and they just arent interested in planning a wedding. It took them 3 months to even pick out a ring! Its frustrating because I so badly want to be engaged and planning a future with my boy and my friend cant even be bothered!!

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