Post # 1
I have a popular dress – the Sottero & Midgley Adorea. I had no idea it was popular until AFTER i bought it. But I decided to not be bothered it, and just love it, because it is a gorgeous dress that I feel amazing in.
Now, the story goes, my Best (guy) friend has been w/ his girl for 8 years. The guy and I are close. The girl and I are friendly, but have never been closed. Not that we don’t like each other – just somehow, never became friends. They get engaged same week as we do (about time too! After 7 years…took them long enough 🙂 ) and wound up planning their wedding 2 weeks before ours. That never bothered me. We have very few overlapping friends or family.
The girl and I dscussed our dresses, but only in the abstract. We do not even remotely have the same style or taste. She’s simple, casual, easy. I’m more loud- i like bling, i like modern, i like some drama, and i’m miss fashionista.
Her wedding was last night. I about had a heart attack when she rounded the corner up the aisle and turnst out – WE HAVE THE SAME DRESS.
How is that possible?! She bought hers in San Diego!
Now i know – we’re styling our hair differently, we have slightly different bodies, we’re accesorizing differently, and we definately have different weddings. Also, only about 6 people from their wedding will be at ours.
But still, I can’t help but feel not special anymore….it was one thing seeing my dress on other brides i didn’t know. It’s another thing to see my dress on my friends wife!
*Sad Panda* 🙁
Post # 3
oh I understand how you feel, the dress that was #1 on my list was worn by a high school acquaintance recently. We’re not friendly but we have lots of mutual friends and it kinda ruined it for me that someone else I know wore it first! Although I found a dress that suit me better, I didn’t let that get to me after a while cuz it was still on my short list as I was making my decision. Ultimately, like you said, you wear it different, style it differently, and you just own that dress in your own way!
Post # 4
You bought your dress because you loved it and it was perfect for you. It is far too late to get another one and you don’t need to. Net result – you will look totally different in yours and the overlap guests will probably never know it was the same dress.
Deep breaths. Your dress is special and will be perfect.
Post # 5
@Margaritachka: How crazy!
This actually happened to my cousin; she and I were talking, and we figured out we have the same dress. My wedding was in June and hers is in mid-August. She was really, really upset and actually reacted really irrationally by not speaking to me for a while (how was I supposed to know we picked the same one?!), but eventually she realized how nuts it was to get so upset about it and came to terms with the idea that she will rock it differently than I will!
I told her what I’ll tell you now: You are a completely different bride, and it’s not so much what you wear as how you wear it. Most of the people attending your wedding have probably been to so many weddings they won’t even realize it’s the same gown- seriously! It’s understandable that you’re upset, but don’t panic and don’t let it ruin your special day. The fact that she wore it isn’t going to make your SO’s heart race any less when he sees you looking all sexy in it!
Best wishes to you!
Post # 6
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry. That DOES suck, but you will look gorgeous in your own right.