(Closed) Another whine and question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Just tell her your venue doesn’t have enough space for people to bring +1s.  Hopefully then she’ll back off.  People can be so rude, you know?!

Post # 4
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Awkward. I’m inviting some work colleagues and not others and I really hope I don’t run into something like this. I think it’s best to just use the generic response, “We’d like to keep the reception intimate with close friends and family only.” I didn’t give my work colleagues, or anyone for that matter, a +1 if I didn’t know the SO or they don’t live together. So not to be rude, but she can either deal with it or not come. If that doesn’t work, you could always lie about the excuse that your venue has a person # limit, but I don’t know how feasible that would be. 

Post # 6
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ticatica: Yeah, I could imagine it’d be hard to say “Nope, sorry, you’re not invited!” But what kind of person would even come up to you and ask?! Jeez. Hmm maybe you could say something about the package you chose only feeds X # of people? I don’t know. Or just be blunt and say no, not giving a reason. 

Post # 8
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

When you address the invitation to her and explain that you have to keep it at a certain number. Unless they are paying for the entire cost of the person they need to understand. And if she says she can’t come tell her your sorry and that she will be missed. You can’t invite everyone 🙂

Post # 9
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1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah if she can’t come without a +1, well then… sorry you won’t be able to make it! 

Post # 10
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3265 posts
Sugar bee

You don’t owe people an explanation when they try to invite uninvited guests to your event.

I’m sorry that won’t be possible. Just keep repeating it over and over.

Her: I want to bring my Boyfriend or Best Friend to your wedding

You: I’m sorry that won’t be possible

Her: but he’s my Boyfriend or Best Friend and we do everything together

You: I’m sorry but that won’t be possible.

Her: But he’s the best. He won’t even eat anything. Or I will pay for the meal

You: I’m sorry that won’t be possible.

Her: you are so mean. He loves weddings and can do a jig around your dance floor

You: I’m sorry. That won’t be possible. See you later gotta run.

Post # 11
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2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@andielovesj: agree with this…

we only ran into more trouble when we tried to explain ourselves to people like this ^^^ 

They don’t take ‘no’ for an answer and better to leave it at a ‘no’ than give them an answer they can ‘fix’ by giving more money (like this person) or something else. 

 

Some people have no wedding etiquitte. Let’s hope they get married someday and have to go through their guests asking them the same thing 😛 

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