(Closed) Another: Would you be mad if someone wore this to your wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you grab a shawl or colorful sweater (lacey type) I’d say go for it.  One, it doesn’t look like a wedding dress.  Two, it has black on it. 

If you really want to know, why not ask the bride?  If you’ve got her email address or FB page, send her a message with the question.  If she says “sure, go ahead” great.  if not, you’ll know for certain. 

me, I’d wear it if I wanted to since it does NOT look like a wedding gown.  Of course, I’m also the one who talked her bridesmaid into wearing a sexy tinkerbell outfit for my fantasy-themed come-in-costume wedding.  so you can’t always go by what I would do 😉

Post # 33
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

2 people wore white to my wedding, and I didn’t care… but I think this crosses the line.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yup I’d wear it, and no I wouldn’t be in the least offended if someone wore that to mine.  However, every bride is different, so if you aren’t sure about her reaction, be prepared for the possibility that it does bother her!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My rule is that unless it’s like an accent color on a dress, don’t ever wear white. Even if the bride isn’t the least bit offended, it doesn’t mean that you won’t get dirty looks from other people in attendance, especially more traditional elders. Why risk feeling awkward in the least?

Also, don’t ask the bride. She may not have the guts to honestly tell you she doesn’t want you wearing it. I would be sad if one of my guests wore this dress, and I would not feel comfortable telling them so.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with the others that it’s just a little too white and “bridal”. My cousin actually wore a dress really similar to that for her second, less formal reception!

Post # 40
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I LOVE the teal version of the dress that Ducks35 posted!  Very wedding appropriate!

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Post # 41
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Blushing bee

I wold say keep looking. It’s a prettydress but theres a lot of white going on. And I’d rather err on the side of caution.

Post # 42
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

oh I love that teal!  speechless will have a lot of that same dress in different colors and pattern if its the cut that you like.  Macy’s and Sears usually has a lot of Speechless dresses in stock.

Post # 43
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Busy bee

I personally wouldn’t wear the dress to a wedding, but if someone had, I wouldn’t be upset either. I think it depends on how it is accessorized too. If the dress was worn with a colored blazer or cardigan along with chunky jewelery, it wouldn’t look bridal at all.

Post # 44
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Busy bee

Save the dress for your rehearsal or honeymoon and go with something else that way you get to wear it and you don’t have to worry about anyone being upset.

Post # 45
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Busy bee

I would never wear that to a wedding, its way too much white in my opinion, and I would be upset if someone wore it to mine. Go for the teal and wear the white one to your rehearsal, its simply not worth it.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I know that a lot of people say you should ask the bride. But personally, I get overwhelmed by everyone’s clothing questions about our wedding! I wouldn’t bother the bride about it. If you’re not sure, don’t wear it.

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