(Closed) Another: Would you be mad if someone wore this to your wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
Member
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

don’t do the white.  it may not offend some brides but either way you will feel uncomfortable.  get something else, or wear a bolero and don’t take it off.. My wedding gown is ivory I wouldn’t want someone in a dress that white in my pictures.

Post # 48
Member
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

also that teal dress is HOT so it is a good choice!

Post # 49
Member
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think there is too much white- why not go for the teal version that Ducks35  posted

Post # 50
Member
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Too much white in my opinion.  I know a lot of people say a white dress is ok if no one would confuse it for a wedding gown, but I tend to think that wearing any kind of white/cream dress to a wedding is going to be seen as an ‘eff you’ to the bride – even if that isn’t how you intend it.  Everyone knows who the bride is, so I think it is more about following societal rules and to me, white at a wedding is always going to be a no-no.  I think some of the other dresses that PPs have posted are much better options.  The teal one is very pretty and in a similar sihlouette.

Post # 51
Member
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Def. too white. I would totally get that for a getaway dress or reception dress or something… as the bride.

Even if the bride is cool with it, a lot of people will internally be judging you for it, and if your already uncomfortable in dresses, I wouldn’t wear one that is going to get a lot of bad looks.. that have nothing to do with how it looks ON you but rather the choice.

As a general rule… also NEVER ask the bride if she’s OK with something. That puts her in such a bad horrible spot. She either will feel bad and actually care and say she doesn’t so she doesn’t come off badly (and then be pissed all night on her wedding and leading up to it) or she will tell you no and feel bad about it… or there’s only a 1/3 chance everything will be kosher… but then there will be guests who can’t believe what your wearing. 

I still remember EVERY person (Who i don’t eve know) who wore a white dress to a wedding clearly in my mind… so, I say go with another choice 🙂

Post # 52
Member
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

agree with all other PP that say it is too much white. I stay away from white all together when looking for something to wear to a wedding. And I agree that you should not ask the bride. In the past few days I have had so many questions about what people should be wearing to the wedding and rehearsal and its just one more thing the bride has to deal with. I liked what another person said about saving it for your rehearsal dinner or honeymoon and then finding something else because it is a really cute dress!

Post # 54
Member
27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you’re having doubts, I would just not wear the dress.  Maybe it comes in a different color?

Post # 55
Member
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have to agree with @KLP2010.  Even if the bride doesn’t care, there are likely going to be people at the wedding who think it’s odd/disrespectful/attention seeking or whatever to wear a mostly white dress to a wedding, and the last thing you want is to feel uncomfortable because people are whispering or you think people might be whispering.  Additionally, the wedding day isn’t just about the bride!  If her mom or grandmom or aunt has strong feelings about the “no guests in white” tradition, then seeing you in white is going to distract her and make her think about something other than what a beautiful wedding it is (and worst case she could actually try to make an issue of it with the bride, asking her “Why is so-and-so wearing white? Did you have a fight? Do you want me to say something?” etc etc).  Overall, I’d just say that unless you have _literally_ no other options (you only own a white dress and have no money for a new one), or the bride specifically asks you to wear white (as a bridal party member or a theme wedding), I’d just stay away from white dresses altogether.  When there are so many other pretty dresses out there, like the lovely teal one posted, it’s all risk no reward.

Post # 56
Member
41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope, I wouldn’t wear it.

Post # 57
Member
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can see the wispers now ,, dont do it. Its just kinda rude. You are not a large girl there are options out there. Dress Barn has alot of styles and pretty dresses I would try there.

Post # 58
Member
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think it’s a good rule of thumb to NEVER wear a white dress to a wedding. Even if the bride doesn’t mind (which I think is rare), other guests will probably talk about you. (Shameful, but I know I’ve pointed out other people wearing white dresses at wedding – am I a horrible person?)

Post # 59
Member
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I dont think its a big deal. I had a friend wear an all white sparkly dress and it didnt bother me one bit. she didnt look like a bride and people know who the bride is. I just feel there are way too many “wedding rules” now adays and that so so many brides have lost sight about what a wedding is really about. I had a blast on my wedding day – I didnt stress about anyhting and it was the best day ever! I think that is what made is so special – me enjoying it and not picking at everything. You know best though whats comfortable for you to wear. If you feel uncomfortable then dont wear it – if you think its fine it probably is!

Post # 60
Member
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Unless you know 100% that the mostly white dress would not offend the bride, then I would skip it.  Better not to risk upsetting someone.  I like the 3-colored dress you posted or the teal one posted by a previous poster.  Both of those would be great for a wedding.  

Post # 61
Member
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would say to let the bride have her special day and wear a different colored dress.

The topic ‘Another: Would you be mad if someone wore this to your wedding?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors