Post # 1
Ok, so it’s Saturday and Darling Husband and I both have the day off. I wasn’t feeling well when I woke up due to allergies/possible cold, so I decided to hang out at home and asked Darling Husband if he could get groceries without me. He said yes, and that he would take my car to Starbucks to study in the air conditioning for a couple of hours first. The studying is for a computer program that he is learning on his own time, not for a class.
Well, shortly after he left I went to use the bathroom and discovered ants ALL OVER my bathroom floor. I think they may have been in the garbage when Darling Husband emptied it, since I didn’t see them earlier. If I lived by myself, I would hop in the car (even though I feel yucky) and go buy ant spray and traps, come home and kill them/clean up.
BUT he has my car, so I called and said I’m sorry, but I need you to come home with ant spray asap. I can’t use my bathroom or take a shower with ants everywhere! Immediately his response was: “no way, I just got here!”. WTF? So we had a big fight over the phone about how I needed help and he had my car and he was being selfish. He says I’m overreacting and it’s not an emergency. I’m thinking – why should he sit in the comforable AC at Starbucks while I sit at home all sweaty cause I can’t even take a shower? He agreed to come home, but I know he’s going to be mad when he gets here.
I know this sounds petty, but what do you think, bees? Am I overreacting or is he being selfish?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t deem the situation an emergency neccesarily, but buying ant spray/traps and running home is probably like a twenty minute job and it shouldn’t have been a big deal for him to do it. The worst that happens is that he has to buy coffee twice, and that’s a champagne problem if I’ve ever heard one!
Plus once ants spread in a house it’s hard to get them all out. Personally I don’t think it was worth the arguement but he should have been okay with running home briefly and coming back to the coffee join afterward.
Post # 4
I’ve been in the same situation by myself but the ants were all over the kitchen, not the bathroom. But you can kill them with Windex or any other kind of spray household cleaner. Wipe them up and problem solved for the time being.
So yes, if I was trying to study and had JUST gotten settled in, I would have been kind of pissed to called home for that.
Post # 5
I think you overreacted.
You could have killed the ants with something else, or ignored them until he got home after studying and getting groceries (they won’t hurt you even if you showered).
Post # 6
Its not an emergency and I do think both of you overreacted a bit.
I think the most reasonable thing for him to have done given the circumstances was do the grocery shopping first, grab the any spray, drop it off at home, and then go back to Starbucks.
Yep, I just made an action plan for your husband. Heh, thats how I would want mine to react!
Post # 7
I think you’re both wrong.
But, if I was you, I would have done the same thing except I would have been super outrageous after he said no…
Post # 8
Your absolutely overreacting. They are ants, not killer bees or something like that. Just deal with it until he gets home.
Post # 9
I have discovered that Windex is a great way to kill ants. Hell…Windex is like great for everything!
Post # 10
I voted for the middle two options for the same reasons as FMM (my eyeball buddy) cited.
Post # 11
Ants do not constitute an emergency in my book.
BUT! I would have expected his reaction to have been a little more kind.
Post # 12
I think you both overreacted. Glad he’s coming home and it’s getting resolved, though.
By The Way, I never knew windex kills ants! Windex really does fix everything!
Post # 13
I think you are overreacting. Ants can be disgusting, but as other people pointed out, any cleaning spray kills ants. In fact, I think it also hides the scent or whatever they use to mark their path (the walk in line following some path).
The only effective way to kill ants, btw, are those traps w/ poison that ants will bring back to their nest: the entire colony will die = problem solved.
Post # 14
Ants aren’t even close to a real emergency. I don’t see why you couldn’t just wait a few hours for him to get home. Studying isn’t usually something that can be done effectively in small time increments. By interrupting him and making him come home, you probably cost him a lot of time in getting settled in and ready to work.
Post # 15
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I have BEEN in this situation… my Fiance went to work and I was stuck in the house with some kind of wasp.. and he came home for me and killed it. I would have not stepped foot in the kitchen had he not. Ants are totally gross!! He had your car so you had no way to get rid of them!! It’s not like youre Darling Husband was working, he was just studying at a nearby Starbucks! I think you were justified :1
Post # 16
Funny story: My Darling Husband decided that shaving was no longer for him, and he wanted to WAX his face. Yes. You read that right. . .
He bought this all natural wax product which contained honey. Used it once, and smartly decided to go back to shaving. He kept the wax thinking I could possibly use it when we moved in together.
Fast forward to move in… Unpacking goes pretty smoothly, but we oddly noticed that ants are slowly infiltrating our bathroom. Well, it turns out that when we opened the medicine cabinet, the little jar of wax was COVERED with ants… layers and layers of ants! It was so nasty. So I feel your pain, but it’s a little humorous.