(Closed) Anthropologie gift from my sister

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Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@sfchick: well, it’s her money to throw away. if she wants to throw some of it your way, just accept it and move on – it was just a sweet gesture. or hey, i’ll buy the towels off of ya and then you’ll have made some $ from it to go towards the wedding!

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@elliestan: lol exactly. If you want to put the towels in the classifieds I will make a “contribution” towards your wedding.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@LGenz: After my mom sees them, I’m putting them on Ebay 🙂

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@sfchick: i urge you to rethink that decision….wouldn’t you be upset if you gave your sister a thoughtful gift and she sold it and made a profit? maybe im in the minority here…

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The way I see it is is you have a choice to make. You can choose to look at the towels as a waste of money, and feel badly that you could have used that money for something else. OR you can choose to see them as a nice gift your sister gave to you to brighten your day. Put them in your kitchen, your bathroom, wherever- use them as a way to focus on what really matters about your wedding, you and you Fiance making a commitment to one another. Everything else is just extra. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle

Those towels are darling!  I might rethink relisting them.  A big part of family is learning to let people be who they are – everyone can’t be the same.  It seems that she is just trying to send you a nice gift.  I’d be incredibly hurt if my sister sold a gift that I picked out and sent to her. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Miss Steinbeck: Yes I hear you. I completely hear you – I am so grateful to have her in my life. Sadly, we are living in a very small apartment and it is packed full of all our belongings and we are selling off expendable stuff in order to avoid having to get storage.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee

If you need to sell things then sell off old towels and replace them with the new ones.  She sent you a thoughtful present that she thought you would love as a way to extend an olive branch after a fight.  If I sent something to a sibling and they turned around and sold it to try to make some extra cash I would be incredibly hurt.  She is trying to take one step forward with your relationship and you are trying to take two steps back.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@mssnapdragon: You made a great point. For years I kept unwanted gifts from my siblings under my bed and put them out when they came to visit. Now that we see each other more often, we understand that we don’t have the same tastes.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Moose1209: Actually I’m not. I posted this to vent my frustration to other brides. Sister and I have made amends about the wedding planning that’s why I found it so funny she spent money on something that I didn’t need. I have another sibling who is a recovering alcoholic who is completely broke and cannot afford to fly for the wedding. I need money to pay for that sister’s outfit, and hotel room. $42 would pay for her shoes or maybe a top for the dress rehearsal. 🙂 It’s all good.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@sfchick:do dish towels really take up so much space that if you don’t sell them, you’ll have to rent storage? you use them to wash dishes!

i would be pissed if i bought you dish towels (from your favorite store no less) and you sold them on ebay.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@kitzy: Right.  That’s what I don’t get.  It’s her fav store, but now it’s too expensive to be throwing money away at?

What your sister does with her money is her own business.  I know it’s hard to separate that during a time of financial difficulty, but it’s your favorite store, and I don’t think a $50 gift is insane or anything.  Yes, they are hand towels–but it’s Anthropologie.

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think it’s a nice gift from her to let you know that she does care about you and your wedding/marriage.  I would graciously accept and use the gift.  I think she was trying to be nice after your spat.  Just work on doing what you can for your wedding. No one is under an obligation to assist you $ wise. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@kitzy: I’m living in 500 square feet so yeah actually, they do take up space. And they are beautiful – I think they are a decoration – not actually functional as a towel. Would you be angry if I sold a gift you gave me to pay for something I needed? Would you be angry if I exchanged the towels for some jewelry for another sibling for the wedding?

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@sfchick:i live in 450 sq feet, and i’m so not buying the “not enough space for 3 towels” argument. you could use them to dry the dishes you wash. and yep, i’d be angry…it was a gift, not a donation to your wedding.

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