Post # 1
Hi bees, I am 21 years old and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. Over these three years I have sometimes lived at his family home with him, and if not living there had been over a few days a week.
I got very attached to this cosy little home, and two weeks ago he moved house and it is HUGE. I know I should be over the moon with all the yard and space.. but I miss the old home and feel nervous because I know when we get married I will be living with him at the new house.
I’ve only been over a couple of times but I have so much anxiety because I have never moved house before (I’ve lived in the same home all my life except for the short periods of time I lived with him) and it scares me a little. I’m not sure how to overcome this fear but I wish my brain would just think I am being silly and let me carry on and be happy that I’m moving into this awesome home.
Do any of you bees have any ideas as to what I could do/think about to deal with this? Thank you for reading what I have to say! x
Post # 3
Question… as I didn’t entirely understand the post.
Is this HIS House… or is this his Parent’s Home that you are referring to ?
I ask cause it could make a difference in my reply
Post # 4
@This Time Round: Sorry I should have made it clear! His old house was his family home, and this new house is his own home and his parents have moved to a different home also. So the old house has been sold to another family.
Post # 5
Ok, so your guy now has a place of his own… that in of itself should be exciting !!
If you are planning to get married, then you can look forward to decorating this place together and taking it from being JUST A HOUSE… to A HOME.
Lol, as someone who’s had to move in to a space that was someone else’s, I can assure you that starting from scratch is a lot easier / less intimidating. You guys can plan out together how you want the space to look / function.
When you move into someone else’s space, you kind of have to tip-toe around some stuff because it has been their routine forever (hmmm, why do you put stuff in this cupboard 8 miles from the stove, where it gets used?). Change is hard for people who have a set routine become accustomed to one way of doing things.
Hope this helps,