Post # 1
Does anyone suffer from Anxiety?
I have suffered from Anxiety for almost 6 years now. It started at age 21, when a lot of people start to experience these types of health issues. I am fine, hold down a professional job (finance in a large city) and manage to live my life relativley fine with no medication. However, sometimes when I am in a high stakes (or stress) situation, I get extremely nervous/anxious.. I cannot enjoy mystelf.. Even when I was about to be proposed to my heart was RACING and I thought I was going to throw up. This horrible nervousness occurs before big meetings at work etc..
I am so worried that for my wedding, everyone is going to be staring at me in the Church.. I just worry that I am going to have a ‘Freak Out’ and start getting that “the world is closing in and I am going to vomit” feeling.. I dont want to feel ill or start sweating or not be able to enjoy myself, and I also dont want to drink too much to ‘calm down beforehand’..
Has anyone experienced this and do you have any adive?
Post # 3
I do suffer a lot from axiety and those feelings you have I get that from time to time depending on the situation. its gotten a lot better in the past few months
Its a really bad thing and if you dont force yourself to control it , it will control you :-(…
IDK how religious you are but I really started praying a lot and not missing church helps me to keep those feeling away.
Keep negativity out of your life too b/c thats what anxiety feeds on
Post # 4
@Kitt0nMitt0ns: Yes, I have anxiety and have struggled with it since my mother passed away 17 years ago. It seems to flair up when unexpected or new situations occur.
I have tried therapy but medication seems to help more than anything else has. Have you considered having a smaller wedding or just going to the JOP?
Post # 5
@Kitt0nMitt0ns: I got a prescription for Xanax. I have had it before, but once it ran out I never felt like I really needed it enough to go back and get it again. But I know I will be really anxious to stand in front of people, so I got a prescription and will probably take one on the wedding day.
Post # 6
i’m a pretty anxious person and i was surprisingly very calm on my wedding day. i kept expecting/waiting for the nerves to hit me the week of, the day before, the day of, and it never happened. i was seriously thinking i was going to need a bag to breath in (or barf in, haha) before my ceremony, but i was totally fine. i didn’t feel nervous or anxious at all. i was just excited and ready to be married. i get more nervous about going to the dentist, haha.
praying/meditation works well for me when i feel like my nerves are getting the best of me. and breathing exercises help me too.
Post # 7
I have pretty severe anxiety. I’ve gotten better with therapy but do find that having a prescription for Xanax is helpful for those stressful situations. I was so worried I would have a huge panic attack on our wedding day. I brought my Xanax with me. I ended up not needed it though. Knowing it was there if I needed it was a huge help.
Do you have a doctor you’ve established a relationship with? I’d explain your fears and get an MD opinion. Most doctors are pretty good about prescribing a few pills to have just in case.
Post # 8
Thanks so much! I will see how I feel as we get closer to the date.. I wouldnt mind having a smaller wedding but FI and FILs NEED a larger one.
Even a glass or two of Champange may not hurt. I just dont want to be drunk in the church :-O
Post # 9
i had valium to calm me down.
Post # 10
Sounds like you need to get on some medication to help control your anxiety.
Post # 11
I have been on Trazadone and Paxil for YEARS. I am off now because of TTC. But I swear by it. My body just doesn’t cope well without meds. There is nothing wrong with it at all. And trust me once your on them for a while, you will wonder HOW you ever survive without them.
Post # 12
Can you learn how to meditate?
(there are a few other entires on that site which can help, poke around if you have time)
It might help you feel more in control of your anxiety.
I’m working on learning for my OCD – it’s hard, but overall I find it useful.
I do not take anti-depressants because I can’t stand the withdrawl symptoms (been on 3 or 4 different kinds), and I once had a month-straight bout of severe hives (wound up in the ER twice) because of an undetected allergy to my prescrition.
I’d suggest going to talk with someone for some time before you get on medication.
Two other things:
– look into taking a vitamin B-complex (I use a brand called “twinlab”) for stress – this helped my anxiety dramatically (but it took a couple months to kick in), I take one every day.
– And learn to laugh! I find that laughing at myself and the situations I’m in help me to keep a level head about things. I don’t mean that I’m down on myself – I just find the humor in small things and laugh a little more. Easier said than done, I know. But maybe give it a thought.
I am sure everything will be fine for you. 🙂
Post # 13
I was so stressed because of the wedding that I had pannic attacks & cried over everything. I actually ended up quitting my job 6 months before the wedding and going on Paxil 5 months before the big day. The paxil was amazing but when I was on it I didn’t care about anything. I still had some days where everything was super overwhelming. So my doctor gave me a RX for Xanax. My panic attack triggers are not knowing what to expect and surprises. I took it the day of my wedding and I was super calm & nothing bothered me that day, even the things that went wrong 🙂 I was cool as a cucumber & it was AMAZING!
Post # 14
Dh has some anxiety as well and really didn’t want a big wedding at first because he didn’t want the attention either. He did just fine though.