Post # 1
Please let me know that everything’s going to be alright! My fiance and I are trying to work out our guest list so that we can have a final number and send out our save the dates and I can feel better, but it’s just not going right! We were trying to keep it too 225 people which I know sounds like a lot!!! (it did to me too! UNTIL I actually sat down and started making a list!) Seriously this may be one of the hardest things I’ve done in my life! (that may be a little of an exageration) I come from a huge family on both my mothers and fathers side so them alone take up a good portion of my guest list. Plus my fiance has a pretty large family too. Then, my family is also very active in our church and I grew up very close to a few families there. Then we have family friends, then we have my parents friends (I had to limit them a little) and then we have my friends (which I also had to cut down a lot, I’m not even inviting anyone from work). Then the same with my fiance, where he’s very active with his fire dept so he has people from there, and his friends and family friends.
I haven’t even added up an exact number yet, we’re doing that in the morning when we combine our two lists., but we are around about 280 PEOPLE! That’s rediculous! I didn’t think it was possible! We definately need to figure out how to cut it down now. I knew that we were going to have a big wedding just because of our family size, but I didn’t think that big! We can’t afford that!!! I’m trying to cut costs where ever I possibly can and trying to be economically savy, but I’m about to have a breakdown!
My Future Father In Law jokingly offered us $11,00 when we got engaged to go elople….but now that’s looking better and better (even though I’d never do it because in the end I’ve always dreamed of a church wedding with a nice reception).
Please tell me there are other bees like me out there going through this too! Share your stories!
Post # 4
I was super stressed about our guest list for a long time too. It made me really sad to have to cut people, so we had a plan to make a B list. But now that we’re actually sending out invitations, we abandoned the B list because in the end, we stopped feeling bad about who we couldn’t invite. So, from my perspective, it gets easier because you stop caring! There are so many other things to worry about through the whole process that soon this will be like nothing.
My only advice is, whatever you do, do NOT invite more people than your space/budget will allow. Most people get a 20% decline rate, but it’s not safe to count on it. I’ve seen way too many Bees panicking right before their wedding because way more people accepted than they expected.
Post # 5
We desided on a destination wedding to avoid all this mess as I have a pretty big family. Our wedding is in our new home province instead of where we grew up so only the people who really wanted to come came. Im in the stage now however that most brides get where they wish they had just eloped and enjoyed being married instead of all the stresses of a big wedding. Have you decided what kind of wedding you want and are you flexiable for your budget?
Post # 6
We’ve alwayes wanted a big family wedding my dream princess wedding, but we were on a budget. Both our parents told us that they will help anyway they can so I was happy we wouldn’t be on our own trying to pay. Then it just so happened that my dad represented a local reception venue in a lawsuit and they were so thankful they told him that if he ever needed their services they would be willing to help. Well I had literally just gotten engaged after all this so we went to see the place and LOVED it, and they did offer us a really good deal. So it was settled we were going to be able to have the wedding we wanted and able to afford it (relatively). This happened a few months ago. But now my dad just lost one of his big clients so I don’t want to bother my parents with any money issues and I’m trying to keep the budget even lower. We basically have the whole venue paid for already, just have to see how many people we end up having and pay the extra that’s needed, but I don’t want too many people.