(Closed) Anxiety Disorder and TTC

posted 11 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@sacbride10: I am also TTC with Anxiety and Panic Disorder and IBS.  I have never been on medication for it, but go to a therapist 2x a month, originally once a week.  I have been going for 6 months and if it wasn’t for my therapy I never would have been ready to concieve.  Are you or have you ever gone to a therapist?  It has really helped with my panic attacks and anxiety.  Good luck.  I feel your pain!

Post # 4
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have anxiety too, and worry (of course I worry lol) about what that will look like when we start TTC.

I used to see a therapist for specific issues that caused the anxiety, and she gave me a “mantra” to say when I get stressed out. It works pretty well, if I catch the anxiety early, and really concentrate. For me, all I do is repeat to myself “Even though I feel like things are out of control, I will be ok, and I am in control”. I usually even close my eyes when I say it, and really, really concentrate on just the words, saying the words over and over again, as well as paying attention to my breathing – to slowing it down to regular, deep breaths. It takes a while, but it does help.  She also gave me a little card that has some points on your hands to massage – supposedly deeply massaging these points calms your body down (or, I have convinced myself of this lol, as it does help to calm myself down)

Maybe something like this would help? I’m sorry you are feeling anxious, it’s one of the worst feelings out there ;-(

Post # 5
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you don’t already have a counselor, it might really help you to find one. (though, I’ve had some good, really helpful ones, I’ve also had some that did not help at all, so you might talk to a couple different counselors and see what one is most helpful for you.) 

Do you have a good friend who is aware of and supportive through your anxiety issues? Maybe ask her if she’s willing to be extra helpful and talk you down and reassure you when you first start to feel overwhelmed. Explain the extra challenge of going off meds and keep her on speed-dial.

Journaling really helps me…writing about what is causing anxiety can help you to slow your thoughts and take an honest look at the situation. I’m also a big fan of lists for similar reasons. Writing in a journal or even just to do/wish lists can help you to break down these big issues (like buying a house and TTC) into smaller steps and smaller issues that you feel more comfortable handling and like you have control over the smaller parts of these big & exciting things happening in your life.

It sounds like you are doing a lot of really good & healthy things to cope with stress/anxiety by limiting sugar/caffeine intake, exercise and deep-breathing. Sometimes it may take a while for the exercise & diet changes to really help though, so I wouldnt abandon those methods after such a short time. 

Post # 6
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@sacbride10: I don’t know much about you. But I overcame (am still overcoming) bipolar disorder and anxiety.

I wish there was a magic wand I could wave to help you, but alas, no such a thing. 

Honestly, I consider myself a bipolar survivor. I woke up one day and said “no more”.

I WILL BE CONSISTENT… NO MATTER WHAT! When I started feeling “inconsistent”, I just go rinse my hands with cold water and remember that promise I made to myself. I take a few seconds to breathe… and then react CONSISTENTLY with how I WANT my life to be.

For a while, I would wear a funny pin on my shirt. (I have a mickey, a minnie, some different birds…) When I feel my hands start shaking, and my blood rising to the surface of my skin, I look at my pin and remind myself that I don’t want this. And I go wash my hands and let it all wash right down the drain.

“Out of my hands”


Good luck <3

Post # 7
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

I have pretty intense ADD, and I used to take medication for it( like 2 months ago). I know my husband and I are going to be thinking about babies in the future so I decided to try to function without it and give it really time to get out of my system, before I needed to worry about conceiving. There have been days where i knew without it I would be useless and I could be taking a risk with my job, since without it I am like a hyper 12 year old.  Could you focus on you for a little bit? Just get yourself used to life without the drugs before TTC, so if you need to they will be there, and you wont have to worry about a baby? Unless you are already pregnany and then in that case, just congrats.

Post # 8
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

There is a website and phone help line based out of Sick Kids Hospital in Toronto, Canada, that is very helpful with questions re: taking medications while TTC or pregnant.  They provide very insightful information on the safety of specific medications based on scientific evidence that they have collected (either themselves, or from peer reviewed literature in scientific journals) through the years. 

When I was a genetic counselling student, I worked a rotation with the mother risk group,  and I was amazed at the amount of information they have collected on all sorts of medications.  I was also amazed at how many medications were actually safe to take during pregnancy (contrary to popular belief).


Not to say that xanax is safe during pregnancy – as I don’t know the answer to that question – but it might be helpful to call them and ask if there are medications to treat anxiety that ARE considered safe while TTC and/or pregnant.  

Too often, women are told to AVOID anything and everything while pregnant, and they suffer needlessly because of it.  I understand that one wants to provide the best possible environment for their unborn child, but if one is dealing with a difficult health issue that is better when treated with medication, then perhaps a medicated mother might actually be the best environment for the baby (obviously this depends on the medication in question).  Just something to think about.

PS.  I also feel very strongly about finding a good therapist to help you deal with your anxiety and panic attacks (if you don’t have one already). Someone who uses cognivitive behavioural therapy for instance, might be very helpful in your situation.


Post # 9
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I suffer from anxiety as well and have been on a number of different medications. So I know the frustration you’re going through.  My best friend and MoH is currently trying to conceive and she has quite bad anxiety that is tied to her cycle (so going off the pill to TTC made her problems even worse).  Her doctor put her on Zoloft.  It’s daily and it’s really helped her a lot, and it’s safe to take while pregnant.  Talk to your doctor about options for medication.  Not to say that you shouldn’t look into therapy as well but as somone said before there is no reason for you to suffer if there is a medication available that will help you and be safe for a fetus.  Good Luck!

Post # 11
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

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@sacbride10: cognitive behavior therapy

Post # 12
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I used to have major anxiety and panic attacks but I learned how to cure it for myself so maybe I can offer you some tips to control it and be gone with it.

The first thing I did was take up running. I found out lots of cardio exercise really helped. It builds endorphins and lets out alot of stress or hidden stress. Another thing I did was when I felt it coming on, sip some orange juice and watch a movie or read a book. The natural sugar in orange juice helped get rid of that feeling. You can also create a calm place in yoru head and go to it while taking deep breathes while you feel one coming on.  

I know how hard it is to live with it, but I conquored it and got off meds and so can you! The number one thing is running or cardio exercsize! Good luck!

Post # 13
513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow. Me too. I have weened myself off of my prescription.

But, I have consciously made a decision not to let external events and factors determine my internal compass/mood. Things will go up or down, but I will stay cool.

Also, I keep the manta, “You can’t get it wrong and you’ll never get it done,” when the anxiety creeps up.

I have let go of perfection and instead reach for excellence. I do my best and that helps me to sleep at night.

Because, really that’s all you get. Your best.

I make sure to take time off when I need to. Anxiety attacks appear for me when I am sleep deprived and I am burning the candle at both ends.

But really, nothing is that important.

I also talk to a therapist once a week.

Take a deep breath and picture how happy you’ll be with your baby. 🙂

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