Post # 1
My LO is a month old and I’ve been breastfeeding and supplementing formula. However in the last few weeks everytime I breastfeed or even pump I get this horrible anxious feeling. Like I get a knot in my stomach and my heart starts racing and I just feel overwhelmed. It sucks cause I wanted to breastfeed for at least a year but I’m already feeling like throwing in the towel 😖 I dont get anxious about breastfeeding, only during. Has anyone else experienced this? And how’d you deal?
Post # 2
Look up D-MER! Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. You are not alone. I have it and have found others that have it but never knew it was a thing. Unfortunately, not much can be done about it but awareness has changed everything for me. My baby is 9.5 months old and it seems to be subsiding.
Post # 3
I don’t have D-MER, but breastfeeding is super difficult, much harder than most people talk about- so thank you for bringing this up! Do you have a good lactation consultant? ( I’ve had a whole slew of breastfeeding problems and my LC has been super helpful every time. )
Post # 4
boogiewoogies : I’ve never heard of that but I looked it up and it sounds very similar to what I’m experiencing. I hope this doesn’t last that long 🙁
rsquared : I saw a lactation consultant once when I was in the hospital when my LO had jaundice. It wasn’t a good experience though because she was pretty overbearing and judgy about me supplementing formula while my LO was sick.
Post # 5
lovepuppies978 : That sucks, even the most zealous lactavists shouldn’t be judgemental about a medical need, it’s not helpful or very empowering for a new mom! I’ve been fortunate that my LC has been really good and even suggested I supplement and/or pump when I had really bad nipple damage. I also found a breast feeding support group that I liked (just went a few times, but it was helpful!) I don’t know if there’s one of those where you are though. Also my Ob/gyn has been helpful with regards to some breasfeeding issues.
Is the anxiety better/worse at certain times of the day? (I know that hormones associated with breastfeeding have some day v night differences) Have you noticed any other patterns?
Post # 6
Can you try something to ease the anxiety while you pump/feed? Like watching a video of the ocean with sea sounds? Or doing breathing exercises during? Or aromatherapy? (lavender essential oil on your chest is soothing to mom and baby). I think it might help.
I am an anxiety sufferer myself, so I relate. I dont have anxiety from bfing, but I had a terrible time with the pump and pumping didn’t work for me, so I just breastfed. The first few months of your breastfeeding journey can be tough and no one prepares you for that! In my experience it got a lot easier after 3mos, but it was a long 3 mos of trial and error. Honor your body and put your health first. Hugs!!!
Post # 7
I also struggled with D-MER and experienced intense feelings of sadness every time I breastfed. Luckily, it went away when my daughter was about 2 months old. She’s 13 weeks now and breastfeeding is so much easier. Hopefully yours goes away as quickly as mine did!