(Closed) Anxiety: Learning to Live Out of State

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think one of the main problems is being a recent grad.  Transitioning out of college life is really hard, and lots of people don’t even acknowledge it.  It’s so different to be in college, surrounded with people who are mostly your age, have much in common with you, and are also eager to make friends and have fun.  Life after college is filled with people from all generations, people who have nothing in common with you, people who are super busy, have their own social circle, etc.  

To add moving out of state on top of it is just difficult.  It takes a while to adjust.  Given that you won’t be there very long, I honestly wouldn’t even worry about it too much.  Try to visit your friends when you can, and just get through.  Your next move (assuming you’ll be there for a longer time) will be a better use of your energies.  

As far as the judgement from not being married, I’ve lived with my boyfriend almost three years and I have never felt that way when explaining to people that we live together, moved out of state together, look for houses together, etc.  I never would have considered it to be a problem.  Sometimes people assume we are married but it doesn’t bother me at all to correct them if they need our names, etc.  I don’t think it’s in any way an insult.  It’s just a misundersanding that’s easy to make.  The only way you can tell a married couple from a dating couple is the ring, and you already have that so I understand the misunderstanding.  Being married has nothing to do with “being worth talking to.”  

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Alyx19:  Oh wow I am actually from Huntsville! Not too familiar with the area around Ft. Knox but it sounds pretty country lol with some of the things you mentioned. I live near Lexington which is pretty similar to Huntsville and I will say it’s normal to lock your car!!!! I think I have heard some real country folk call people Yankees but its definitely not normal and some people might be saying it to be joking (some maybe not). Huntsville is a great city (although I may be a little biased). There is a very diverse group of people there and although a lot of people embrace local culture, like Alabama vs Auburn Football, saying ya’ll, eating barbeque, etc. and you will see a lot of churches,  there are plenty of people there that are originally from some other part of the country. The downtown is not too impressive but they are trying to increase interest in the area by having fun activities like craft festivals, pub crawls, and food truck rallys. There are plenty of restaurants, bars, and a couple of clubs. Craft beer is becoming a big thing with breweries popping up all over the place. There is also a lot of other activities and groups there with varying interests from book clubs to bicycle clubs, hiking, theatre, ballet, symphony, art museum and botanical gardens. If you like hockey they have a professional team there called the Havoc and the college I went to, UAHuntsville, also has a hockey team that is pretty good! They don’t really have a lot of big name acts come there but if you like concerts, Nashville is just two hours away most people will stop there on their tour. If not, Atlanta is about 4 hours away and everyone goes there! There’s a lot of grocers there and they are planning on building a Whole Foods Store. There is already a store called Earthfare which has a great selection of fresh meats and produce and I’m sure they, or one of the other stores, will have any spices or specialty items you could want. It is in the South so inherently it is Southern city but not in the bad way most people would imagine. There are friendly people and there are some not friendly people. I have friends that were born there that don’t have southern accents. I really like the diversity there. If you need any help (best areas to live, best restaurants, etc.) once you relocate to Huntsville, just let me know! I have claimed the city as my hometown although I wasn’t born there. I moved there in middle school after having lived in CA, MO, and VA due to my dad being in the military. (It’s so much easier to move and make friends when you are a kid!!). 

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