(Closed) Anxiety – My mum wants to get married to a guy she just met!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow! I’m so sorry! How did she meet this guy? Have they corresponded for some time and are just now meeting in person for the first time?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you need to sit down and have a chat with your mom.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ouch! Does she have a history of doing this? Are you guys close enough to the point where she’d tell you what exactly is driving this? Maybe she wants to make herself feel young and desirable… parents do strange things when they see their kids get married and realise that they themselves are getting old.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I am, once again, so, so sorry. I wish I had some good advice for you but I don’t 🙁 I’ll be praying for you guys.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry to hear that your mom will be missing your birthday. Also, sorry you’re feeling weird about this, but it is your mom’s life. I do understand that you would like to get to know this man a little better and wish that your mom would do the same, but sometimes that just doesn’t happen. I don’t think it’s fair that she wants you to look to this man as a father and simply tell her that you will not think of him as a father figure, but maybe as a step-dad or simply her husband.

Your mom has to do what makes her happy – people are told several times daily on these boards to do what makes them happy and not let others influence their decision. Your mom is a grown ass woman and she should be able to date/get engaged to/marry the man she wants without feeling guilty about it.

If it doesn’t work out, then it’s her mistake to make.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I reallly love the first one on her the second one makes her look heavier about the mid section. You have a beautiful mum. I am sorry all this has been so traumatic. As someone who found out she didn’t at all know the person she married I can identify with your fears. She really does need to go and get to know him very well before making such a huge committment. The man I married was a virgin when I met him. Had never been in a serious relationship and was 34. Even though we dated quite a while it was long distance and I never got to know the “real” him. He deliberately hid a lot from me so that I would marry him. It was a very scary and dangerous time in my life. Lots of verbal and physical abuse and his family has serious psychological problems. I would hate to see anyone go through anything even remotely similar. I will be seriously praying for your mum. I am sure she is a smart lady and will do the right thing.

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