Post # 1
Hey everyone 🙂
So as we were meeting with our wedding coordinator, we were looking at our choices for the horse & carriage. The coordinator said “you’ll ride to the ceremony at the chapel with your father” and thats when it hit me…..I have to be alone in a horse and carriage ride with my dad abd then he has to give me away, then I have to dance with him later. This is all going to be so awkward!
My father and I aren’t close at all….he wasn’t too involved in my childhood and nowadays its the same way. I feel so much anxiety over the wedding traditions that incude my dad…..I really hate the fact that I have to feel this way about something so many women are happy about. Its going to be so awkward and uncomfortable for me having to dance with him- its uncomfortable for me when we talk, or even if he hugs me- so how the heck can I dance with him?!
When I bbrought this up to my mom she said I should do it anyways as it would look bad otherwise. I agree- mainly because my fiancé is looking forward to his mother son dance. He’s such a sweetheart he offered to skip his so neither of us would have to do it so I wouldn’t be uncomfortable. ….but I can’t do that to him….so I guess I just have to suck it up 🙁
Now I face the impossible task of finding a non-personal song…..any suggestions?
Is anyone else struggling with this? Im anxiety ridden and the wedding is 1.5 years away…..ugh 🙁
Post # 2
I am dancing with my mom. The song I hope you dance has always been “our” song. So we will be dancing to that. My SO and I tossed around other Idea such as I dance with his dad and he dances with my mom at the same time. To show that we are one family. But I think we will go with me dancing with my mom and he dances with his mom.
Post # 3
My vote is don’t do a dance with you dad, or else pick a super short song.
Also, can your mom come in the carriage with you and your dad?
Or, spend the time between now and your wedding improving your relationship with your dad? Cos you’ll have so much spare time, right 😉
Post # 5
I am close with my Dad, but I still felt akward dancing with him. So I danced with my dad at the same time as DH was dancing with his mom. It made the whole “silly wedding formalities” portion of the reception shorter as well.
Post # 6
Have mom and dad in the carriage. Dance with dad at the same time as Fiance dances with his mom, then part way through he goes to dance with your mom and you dance with his dad. There are many ways to get around this. Plus, you don’t have to do any of it if you don’t want to. My mom walked me down the aisle.
Post # 7
SarahLulu- Would that be weird, having my mom with us too? It wouldn’t be traditional but we’ve done away with most of the traditions anyway.
As for improving our relationship…..it won’t happen…..we get along fine- we’ve never argued, we visit him, it’s just incredibly uncomfortable and awkward having anything other than a casual conversation with him. When he hugs me (which is rare) it feels like I’m hugging a stranger. …I even avoid his phone calls because I just don’t know what to say to him. It’s so depressing 🙁
Post # 8
Could you dance at the same time that your Fiance dances with his mom? That way you still dance with your dad, but all of the attention is not on you.
I would have your mom walk you down the aisle with your dad, as well.
Post # 9
It is your wedding. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Meet your dad at the venue and go with your Maid/Matron of Honor or mum in the carriage. Walk down the aisle with your Maid/Matron of Honor or mum or on your own. Watch your Fiance dance with his mum and enjoy watching him have that moment or dance with your mum or a friend