(Closed) Anxiety Ridden

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honey I totally understand! Our guest list mushroomed from 145 to 300 in the blink of an eye. I don’t know how we’ll pay for it, and Fiance seems to think it’ll just work out. Future Mother-In-Law was adding her husband’s neieces and nephews, who Fiance has never met when I finally lost my cool on it.

I worry every night that the restaurant we’re having the reception in won’t be able to accomodate our growning guest list. That it’ll rain and we have no rain plan. Etc. Etc. Etc.

I too, wish I’d been able to convince him to elope. Gah.

Post # 4
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think you need to tell his parents no. Ugh but they already offered to pay. 🙁

What about giving them a deadline? Like, “Okay, we’ll need that thousand to cover xyz up front, so please get it to us by [date not too far away].” Then you’ll have a time frame (and reason) for bugging them if they fall through.

It’ll be okay!! All these little bumps are just part of the road leading up to your WEDDING!! The one where you get to MARRY the man of your dreams! Yay!

Post # 6
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1045 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

Is telling them no not an option?  Are they particularly close to these cousins?  🙁  I’m sorry you have to deal with the awkwardness!  I would just have your Fiance tell them that the $1000 is due soon (like by March 1st)– otherwise, you may never see it…

Post # 7
Member
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh I feel your pain. I wish we would have eloped almost every other day!!!

Post # 8
Member
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with setting a date that they have to give you the money by.  This will force them to evaluate and be realistic.

We told our parents that we will pay for OUR family and friends but they would need to pay for the friends they would like to invite.  They really couldn’t complain since we are covering EVERYTHING from A to Z.  Both cut their list in half.

Good luck! 

Post # 10
Member
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Realistically, they’re just a few people. Sure, it’s a pain in the rear and it sounds like your guest list has already done some inflating, but … family is family. And if they’re buddying up now, they’ll probably be even closer 8 months from now.

One question though, what are these people thinking, assuming you would have sent out invites already, when the wedding isn’t for another 9 months?! Of course they haven’t received their invites – NO ONE HAS! haha….

Post # 11
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry they are making it a mess.  I would definetly get the money from them before inviting them since you aren’t inviting people that far out on the family tree for your side so they are making it uneven.  I hope you can figure it out soon!

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