anxiety so badly i want to cancel everything with wedding in six weeks!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Therapy. Right now. It’s not that expensive (especially compared to all the random things you probably spent hundreds, if not thousands, on for the wedding). And it’s not all that difficult to schedule. My regular health clinic offers counseling services, and you call in, book and appointment and just go in and talk to someone for an hour. Yours probably does something similar. There’s absolutely no negative stigma attached to it, no one has to know, you don’t have to have a psychological disorder or anything (honestly, I went a couple times when I was overwhelmed by work and moving to a new city). Consider it like paying for that updo or that spa day before the wedding to help you relax and get ready.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You need to talk to a doctor. Anxiety meds will work in the short-term, and you should seek therapy for the long-term.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, bee!! I’d recommend therapy and/or medication for your anxiety. SSRIs take 2-4 weeks or so to have an effect, so you should go ASAP so that if you get started on a med, it’ll be fully working in 6 weeks for your wedding. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

LoganElizabeth :  Of course! There are a variety of anti-anxiety medications, so it’s kind of confusing. Some of them, namely benzodiazepines, are very short acting and temporary so have utility for panic attacks, but you can’t use them all the time or for very long. Typically, the first-line treatment for a lot of types of chronic anxiety are SSRIs, which are not helpful right away becasue it takes a couple of weeks to set in, but they are good for long-term treatment. If you talk to a doctor about your symptoms and what kind of treatment option you’re looking for, they will be better able to help you out! 

You can get through this bee, I believe in you and just think of how relieved you’ll be in 6 weeks with the wedding behind you and a lifetime of marriage with your new husband ahead ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
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Newbee

I’m getting married in a month and I recently started having anxiety everytime I think about the wedding. Chest pain, nausea, the works. It has nothing to do with becoming a wife. I’m not nervous about that at all and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this man. I think it’s mainly over our families (and whether or not mine will behave), but also over walking down the aisle, and just getting everything done. I’ve started having recurring nightmares where I realize I’m late to the wedding and I haven’t even showered yet and other ones where he tells me he doesn’t want to marry me anymore. We’ve been together for 5 years.

I started reading a lot of articles online about this subject. It’s very helpful and you should do a search (or go to therapy like others suggested). You’re definitely not alone. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Therapy therapy therapy! I’m in the same boat, although my wedding is four months away the anxiety is really starting to ramp up. I started calling therapists yesterday – please do it for you!

Post # 12
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Newbee

 

LoganElizabeth :  Thank you and same to you! Remember: try not to be a perfectionist. I am, and I start freaking out when I think things aren’t going to be perfect. Nothing like setting yourself up for disappointment! LOL  Also, it’s only one day. We’ve kept our ceremony VERY short and our photographer understands that we’re only doing the “posed” shots for a hot minute. I want mainly candid photos because I look like a complete idiot when I try to pose. Seriously. There are many adjustments you can make when you figure out what is making you the most nervous. I’m not sure if you’re going on a honeymoon right after the wedding or not, but we are and that has become my happy place. Whenever I start getting freaked out, I just drink a margarita (wine will do) and go to my happy place. Sure, I’ll be an alcoholic when it’s all said and done, but as long as I don’t pass out when I’m walking down the aisle with my bloomers on show for all guests to see (one of my fears), it’s all good. 

Try to enjoy your day! Remember, it’s temporary. It will fly by!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

First of all I want to say that it’s completely normal to feel this way!!  I was so scared about those things too and being the center of attention and just worrying about all the details, when really the thought of something is always worse than when it actually happens!  That’s always how it goes!  I was nervous leading up to my wedding and even super nervous the night before during the rehearsal but on my wedding day it’s almost as if the nerves went away and I was just so excited and so happy and everything went well!  Try to have a different outlook on everything if you could… know that things could go wrong but so what??  Not a big deal.  I’m sure certain things could’ve gone differently or better at my wedding but overal I think it was perfect!  My husband and I got to marry eachother.  I see that everyone is recommending anxiety meds, and while it might be helpful I wouldn’t count on it as a quick fix (or something that will all of a sudden completely change you).  It’s normal to have anxious feelings and learning of different ways to deal with it will help you.  Maybe some type of relaxation techniques?  Or having different views on things might help?

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