Anxiety whenever I start to plan the wedding

posted 7 months ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
2897 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

preciousmetal143 : Your father wont fly because of TSA?? Even for his own daughters wedding? WHY?

Go to the courthouse with your VIPs.

Post # 3
2677 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

 Where do you live bee? Are there any beaches within reasonable driving distance, like even on a lake if you don’t live near a coast?

Post # 4
2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

preciousmetal143 :  Go the three of you. Buy her a plane ticket to go home early. At 17, she’s old enough to fly alone. Have her mother pick her up at the airport and enjoy your honeymoon without her. 

Post # 5
5857 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

teamroro :  This is a great idea!

Also- the way I handled people with opinions was that anyone pointing out problems but not offering solutions to address them could step to the side and take a sip of STFU while the planning went on (so, your father and his TSA bs should take a nice healthy gulp).

Another possible solution would be for you to have your official legal wedding at the courthouse locally with a few loved ones (followed by a dinner reception at a restaurant) and then a private “elopement” on the beach with your husband and photographer on your honeymoon- go out to the beach, say your own vows to one another, take photos and enjoy your honeymoon time.

ETA- The thing I did that helped us out a lot with planning was to get clear about our top 3 priorities (for you, it sounds like Affordable and Low Stress, Step Daughter’s presence, Beach and Photographer). If you’re open to being creative (or non traditional) about HOW you make those happen, you can pretty much do anything. And when you start feeling overwhelmed, just return to your basics- anything that supports those, keep in the pot for consideration, anything that doesn’t support them, toss it! 

Post # 6
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

You have a lot of the same basic facts as we do! I have a 17 year old daughter and we are flying away to the beach to get married because of family issues. We are bringing my daughter and her BFF along. But we’re only going to be gone 4 days and will be taking our actual honeymoon at a later date. We’re bringing her friend though so we can have a little alone time the next day and she won’t feel awkward since she can hang with her friend. 

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