- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
My Maid/Matron of Honor is awesome. Seriously. I love her so much as a GREAT friend and also for being so excited and supportive of me and now of me and my fiance and our wedding!
We are just at the VERY beginning of wedding planning, I only asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor (to her great delight!!) about 2 1/2 weeks ago. She’s most of the way through a major recovery from serious facial/jaw surgery and reconstruction, but is doing great and healing fast. She was already a month into recovery when I last saw her and asked her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Anyhow, we stay in touch through email, text, and a couple phone calls. She lives in my same town. I sent her an email a couple of days ago, and she’s on the roll with being ready when I am to hunt down the gown, etc. I mentioned that I needed to get with her for wedding planning and shower, etc. (I tried to insert shower stealthily), and she’s gung-ho, but she has yet to say ANYTHING about hosting and planning a shower for me.
My other two (possibly three, when the third gives me her yes or no) bridesmaids haven’t mentioned desiring to throw me a shower, either. Honestly, my Maid/Matron of Honor is really into doing a lot of stuff and has shown the greatest enthusiasm (second to her is my Future Sister-In-Law who I just asked to be a bridesmaid and SHE lives 7 HOURS away from me! I don’t expect her to throw a shower being long distance).
So, am I wrong to be a tad anxious about my Maid/Matron of Honor not saying anything about planning and/or hosting a shower? None of my immediate family is even speaking to me, let alone my very own mom who up to a few months back, was one of my BEST Friends. My extended family all live at least 1,700 miles from me and are elderly for the most part, so I don’t expect anything there. And my fiance’s parents live literally across the United States. All I have are close friends!!
Also, if I really would like to have my once-in-a-lifetime bridal shower, how do I “hint” at that with my Maid/Matron of Honor without being rude? How far can I go? Is it bad etiquette to actually voice my desire somehow? I am so new at this, and am learning really only based on lots of reading in books and on boards like this one. And, when am I supposed to expect to have a shower if my wedding is in a little under 6 months from now??
ANY advice/input/experience would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks so much!!!!