(Closed) Anxious about plus-sized dress shopping

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m afraid I have no advice for you, because I’m in the same boat as you! My bm’s/MIL keep saying “ooh you’ll be going dress shopping soon, I bet you’re soooo excited!” Well, no, I am terrified! I keep saying “yeah, when I lose x amount of pounds we’ll go dress shopping,” but so far it’s not helped.

I’m scared that I’ll go and nothing will fit me, and of “we have nothing for you here” type sales assistants!

I know this probably hasn’t helped you much, but you’re not alone!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m plus sized also and pretty self consious about it.  I’ve been to three different dress shops (about 5-6 trips in total) and at every one the shop and consultants were great. Never made me feel bad about a dress that wouldn’t fit or my size in general.

They’re there to sell you a dress and they’ll make money if you buy one from them, so they should want you to feel good and find something.

My tips that you can try if you want to protect your modesty a bit – wear a longline bra and spanx and maybe a half slip.  I did a longline bra and spanx and felt fairly “dressed” when I was trying on things.  At one place they lent me a half slip for modesty as well and that was pretty nice, so I thought I might buy my own to wear at other places (but found the dress before I got to that).

Good luck!

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I understand where your fears are coming from. I tried to stay positive and approach it with the attitude that I can’t really worry about it too much and was determined to have a good time. 

The consultants were all great. It was awkward stripping down in front of them but I think that that is true no matter how skinny or heavy you are. 

My dress is a modified A-line and it was definitely the style that looked best on me. I think A-lines are really nice. Try to keep an open mind and let the consultants make suggestions. They truly know what works best! I never would have thought that my dress would end up being as “complicated” as it did. 

Bottom line.. don’t worry! You will look great πŸ™‚

By The Way I’m a street size 14

Post # 8
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m feeling the same way about dress shopping.  My first appointment is in three weeks, and I have two appointments made.  I’m a street size 20, and I’m really self-conscious about my weight and appearance.  I think the best advice I can give you is to keep an open mind and try on at least one of every type of dress.  You never know what might look great on you!

Also, we’re not the first plus size people these bridal shops have dealt with.  If you feel uncomfortable or not respected, move onto the next place.  I’m sure you’re going to look great in anything you try and it will be fun once you get over the initial shock of trying on clothes with a stranger’s help, lol.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Maria444:  Thank you so much! You will be rocking your dress in no time! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Maria444:  

I’m a street size 16, and I have to say I 100% completely felt the same way when I started dress shopping.. I was nervous and anxious… it took me a long time to feel comfortable in my underwear in front of my fiance with the lights on, and now I am expected to strip down in front of a complete stranger under bright glaring lights?! Yikes!

I started at David’s Bridal (because I KNEW they’d have my size in a variety of dresses) but ultimately HATED my experience there. I went twice, and both times I was assigned a different consultant. One made me feel totally comfortable, like I wasn’t actually standing there in a bra and panties. The second made me feel SO completely uncomfortable and awkward and ugly (which was only one of the many reasons I ended up running FAR from David’s Bridal).

So on to the actual salons… my nerves were SUPER tense. And I went to a LOT of boutiques!! Of the 6 boutiques I went to, and 9 trips total (I’m really indecisive..), only ONE of the consultants made me feel uncomfortable. And it was actually because she was TOO casual – while I was in the dressing room and she was lacing a corset back (I had my strapless bra on), out of NOWHERE, she said “This dress will look 100 times better without the bra!” and with one shockingly swift motion, my bra was on the floor! I didn’t even have a chance to notice what was happening. I must have reacted in shock, because she then said “Don’t be shy, honey, I see girls strutting around naked here all day! It’s no big deal!” Well, that’s great if it’s no big deal to YOU, but these are MY boobies!

 

Sorry for the tangent…. but after a few visits, I felt comfortable (even when one consultant INSISTED she could squeeze me into a size 6! Halfway through I made her give up, made a joke about my enormous Hungarian hips, and brushed it aside).

You have to remember they see ALL types of bodies, every day. And if they are in the profession (except for a few) they understand full well how self-conscious girls can be, and they understand how to be respectful and courteous.

 

And I promise, you WILL feel amazing!!!

P.S. I highly recommend Maggie Sottero – her dresses are designed with so much support that you won’t need any bra at all, and they suck everything in and leave only the curves you want. πŸ™‚

 

 

Here’s my dress: In Maggie sizes, my bust and waist were a 14, but my hips were a size 18… but I was able to buy my corset A-line dress in a 14, and because of the shape, it fit beautifully everywhere. πŸ™‚ (crappy photo, I can’t wait till I get mine in and can take better pics!)

Post # 12
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I too was really nervous, but I swear wedding dresses are magical and do wonderful things for your body.  I am sharing a link to the post when I got back from dress shopping.  I hope it helps.

 

My Battle with Dress Anxiety & Body Issues

Post # 13
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224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we had to hold up my dress to me becuase i am not as tiny as the sample was, but i could still envision it quite well. my consultant was awesome and VERY nice the whole time. the shop owner came in and did 2nd measures for me and she was super nice as well! never once did they make me feel like any dress was not going to work becuase they didnt have my size sample. she also could envision what would work best for my body type. 

Post # 14
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I was extremely anxious to try on wedding dresses! I am not a fan of trying on clothes, so I knew it would be a chore to try on dresses.

I had a wonderful experience at the bridal store and the consultant was very helpful. I ended up finding my dress and bought it off the rack. The dress fit me like a glove! The only alterations I had made were to bring the shoulders in because they were too loose, and I had my dress bustled. 

I am a size 22 and I am also over 6 feet tall, but I tried on every style of dress the store had. I suggest you do the same! It will amaze you what wedding dresses will do for your figure. 

Good luck and have fun, it is your day!

Post # 15
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

2 words: Maggie Sottero

I am a plus-size and very short bride, I was so affraid of going dress shopping and I waited to the last minute possible to go shop my dress and now I regret it because the minute the sales lady put the first Maggie on me, I was delighted ! I felt beautiful, because she has the most beautiful and fitting dresses ever ! The corsets are a gift from God !!! Go there and have fun !! Good luck πŸ™‚ 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am a 16 as well and Maggie Sottero is so flattering! Here are two pics of me in Maggie gowns.

I had felt so self conscious like you do but the place I went was very nice and my consultant (who was thin so that made me more self conscious) really went above and beyond to make me feel beautiful. Maggie’s cinch you in just the right way and give you a great shape. I recommend trying them out! We are the same size after all πŸ™‚ 

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