(Closed) Anxious about wedding, please advise

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

To be honest, that was a little long and I kind of skimmed it.  I’m not sure if there’s a “right” answer here.  It sounds like a great deal of the circumstances surrounding the wedding are for convenience (but not yours, right?) so you are settling.  I would hate for you to have to settle!  On the other hand, this might be a case where you have to focus on how much you love your Fiance and remember the goal is to get married, the awesome wedding is a great bonus (that of course we are all told we are entitled to), but it is not the most important thing.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Well, as a fellow ex-pat living abroad, I am also marrying a foreigner.  We aren’t rushing anything, but I can tell you that one of us had to give up some things to get married.  We are getting married in my home town in Texas, that is lterally halfway across the world from his home town in South Africa.  Only his parents will be at the wedding and the other 100-125 guests are my family and friends.  I’m sad about it at times, but not much else we can do but have two weddings.  It sounds like you guys are actually getting married in the US, which I think is a good thing for you.

As I live abroad, I’ve seen many internationals get married and some get married quicker than they originally wanted because of visa issues, although they are all still happily married.  Why can’t you do a quick civil ceremony for immigration purposes and then postpone the wedding until you can figure out what you want to do with a “real” ceremony that suits you both?

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