Post # 1
So I bought my dress yesterday, and I had all these decisions to make (size, color, length, etc). I just SO awful at making decisions that I’m just really anxious about my dress. So many people talk about THE DRESS, and as my fiance put it even if I’ve found something that’s a great fit I have such difficulty committing (i.e. not accepting his proposal for like an hour, choosing colleges, etc). I felt like I had looked at enough dresses, but ugh, I can’t help but feel make the anxiety is a sign I didn’t look enough (which you can see is a downward spiral). How many of you just KNEW it was the ONE, and was really happy or did you have some anxiety. Did it go away when the dress came in?
Post # 3
anxiety is normal! buying a dress is a big, expensive decision — it’s the dress you’ve dreamed of since you were a little girl, and it helps set the tone for your wedding. that’s a lot of pressure!
remember the way the dress made you feel when you put it on. once your dress actually comes in and is fitted to you, your anxiety will disappear.
Post # 4
I really regretted my dress after buying it. I kept thinking about how much money it was and what other dresses would have looked good on me.
Well the anxiety did go away and my dress isn’t even here yet! I have fallen back in love with it. I think it will just take some time.
Post # 5
Some things you can do to help limit your anxiety.
1. Do not look at any more dresses. Nothing leads to more dress regret than continuing to look after you’ve put down the deposit on your dress. Seriously. Just stop looking!
2. Were you allowed to take pictures of yourself in the dress? If so, I’d suggest once a week (or more, if you like), take a look at the pictures and remind yourself how stunning you looked in it, and how you felt when you had it on. Try imagining the whole look you will have on your wedding day and how you will look walking down the aisle. It really, really helps to visualize yourself looking fantastic in your dress on the wedding day.
I felt anxious after I put down my deposit, too. Mostly, like tranquility, I was regretting the big price tag more than anything else. But if you can kind of let go of that – I mean, after all, it’s an important garment for one of the most important days of your life – then you start to feel a lot better about the money anxiety, too.
Post # 6
Yes anxiety is completely normal. I kept going between a few different dresses unable to committ, but finally after thinking about what I wanted I decided on one. Now I am completely happy with it and can’t wait until it comes in!
Post # 7
@Bubu82:1. Do not look at any more dresses. Nothing leads to more dress regret than continuing to look after you’ve put down the deposit on your dress. Seriously. Just stop looking!
OMG YES! This is the piece of key advice I wish I would have told myself when I first bought my dress! There will always be a dress that is “better” but there is a reason you bought yours and always remember there!
Post # 8
I loved my dress when I put it on and, after wiping my weepy tears, bought it that day. It was the fifth dress I tried, but I loved it. As time went by, I wondered if I would still love it and if it would still fit. When I went for my first fitting, I was a little disappointed. I started looking at other dresses, but I kept rejecting them and coming back to what I originally liked about my dress (the embellishments are a little unique). When I went back for my second fitting, I loved the dress again, but wanted an additional alteration. When I went for my final fitting, the dress fit me perfectly and I completely adored it again.
The purpose of that very long description is to demonstrate that your anxiety is normal, and that it can be really difficult to feel special in a dress that doesn’t quite fit you yet. My advice is to think about why you like the dress, how you felt in the dress, and what made it the one you bought. And if it is typical for you to second guess yourself and have these kinds of worries, then I would just try to put it all out of your mind as part of how you process things and see how you feel after a bit.
Post # 9
@AmberAustin: I knew my dress was the one and went back to try it on a second time and absolutely knew! I has been to 3 bridal shops and tried on about 40 dresses and NOT ONE felt right. They all aged me accept for the one I went for. I have not had a moments regret about it and haven’t laid eyes on it in the real sense since October. I have pictures and the bridal store let me take video footage of it (watched again last night) and I can honestly say I love it. I love looking at other people’s dresses but haven’t come across one that’s made me wondering about my choice 🙂 Very happy.