(Closed) anxious/antsy feeling about marriage?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yeah I think what you’re feeling is pretty normal.  Forever is overwhelming to me whether it’s being married or eating healthy or never smoking a cigarette again.  (I do better at the cigarettes then the eating currently)  So I just kind of take it one day at a time.  I can handle what life throws at me today, and today I’m soooooo happy to be with my Fiance

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The word Forever freaks me out so bad that I have semi- panic attacks over it at night. Thinking about life/death/afterlife/marriage etc – just the notion of “forever” is scary and sort of daunting. Take life day by day, don’t dwell on the word or the idea. That’s what i try to do

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What emilygrace07 said is true. You are making a big decision by choosing to get married, and it’s not a choice that you just make once. It’s one that you will keep making over and over again, for the rest of your life. Thinking about anything in those terms can cause a little panic, but it’s completely normal. It sounds like you really know in your heart that your Fiance is the one you want to keep choosing for the rest of your days.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Also wanted to say, since I didn’t in my original post, I feel this way too sometimes!!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

You’re not crazy. You’re just getting married.

Yes, it’s like a ‘holy crap’ feeling when those sorts of thoughts creep in.  It has little to no bearing on the state of your relationship.  ‘What ifs’ are scary!

Especially with stories of divorce or broken relationships all over the place, it’s hard not to think of the long-term; but trust that you and your Fiance are in a good place witht he best of intentions at heart.

I sound like a broken record, but have you checked out Shery Pauls works?  She wrote “The Conscious Bride” and writes on her blog about topics like this (conscious-transitions.com and consciousweddings.com).

Good luck!

 

 

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m feeling those “pins and needles” as well. I was supposed to get married in Sept this year but have to change my date now. Is it bad that I felt a sign of relief? not because I don’t want to get married or don’t adore my Fiance…I just thought “yes!! I have more time to do the things I WANT” to just do ME as some people put it without have those guilty feelings of compromise…does anyone else feel that way?

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