(Closed) Anxiously engaged

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You’re really young and this has happened really quickly. I think its a good thing you are having a long engagement because in those years you will likely both change and grow. Whether you’ll grow toggether or apart remains to be seen.

Post # 4
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That sounds pretty fast to me… I’d say just have a long engagement and see how your relationship goes.  If you grow closer, wonderful, then you will probably be willing to move with him.  But if he continues to act immature, you need to think carefully before taking the huge step of marrying him. 

Post # 5
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

A few things that stuck out to me:

1. You said you got engaged to your neighbor. Even if I met my Fiance while I was living next door to him, I don’t think I could ever call him my neighbor.

2. It took a few sentences for you to say that you really love him.

Did this all come as a surprise to you? Did you want to date him longer before being proposed to?

If so, I think you said yes because you’re a nice person, and it’s good you have a long engagement. 

If you’re questioning his character now, you should be really be observant and try to be objective over the next two years. And if you don’t feel that he isn’t 100% right for you, or you’re not 100% right for him, don’t hesitate to do the right thing and end the relationship.

Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@fzesguer:  This.

The way you wrote your post makes you sound like you’re not too into it. Why did you want to get engaged? There’s nothing wrong with saying you’re not ready. If you’re going to get married you should be able to talk about stuff like this. 

Post # 7
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I just worry that his attitude towards responsibility and work ethic as well as the party/beach lifestyle he enjoys with his other rich friends will become an issue? Any advice?

He’s 21 and a party animal that is going to be handed the family business and just got engaged to his neighbor that he knew a year and that he dated all of a few months. I know you said you “saved him” at one point, but I think in this instance you should save yourself and walk away. If that isn’t an option then you need to talk to him. I wish you the best, but this relationship seems a little rushed.



Post # 8
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you don’t like the party lifestyle he leads now, you won’t like it when you’re married.

Sure, maybe it’s just a phase typical of 21 year olds, but you won’t know if it’s something he’ll move on from until he’s older.  If you’re unsure, keep dating, be engaged if you want, but don’t plan a wedding until you are comfortable. If that means 5 years from now, so be it.


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