(Closed) Anxiously waiting for the ring (which I already helped pick out)/going crazy

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Well you don’t have to keep your mouth shut here! This hive is full of bees you can vent to about your excitement/frustrations/whatever 😀 And I know it’s tough waiting for that ring! My Darling Husband made me pick mine out, then had it mailed to my house (he’s in the navy and lived on the ship so he couldn’t have it shipped there) and I couldn’t open the package for a week! Then it was another few days before he finally popped the questions. It was torture. But know that your future Fiance is only waiting because he wants the moment he proposes to be perfect for you! The wait will be worth it! Just hang in there!

Post # 4
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I know it’s tough – but it will come and it will TOTALLY be worth it. My fiancee made me wait too – and even tricked me! He planned a special getaway weekend to New York shortly before the holidays – we were going to go to Rockefeller and look at the tree. (I love Christmas, and he knows it!)

Well – he didn’t do it then. And I was mad! But, when he finally did do it, it was the best ever. Be patient. It will come. I know it’s hard… but just know that he wants it to be absolutely perfect for you.

Post # 5
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I feel your pain.

We picked out my ring in October, it is not April. No ring. However, this next week I go to Kuwait, where he works, and from what I can gather, he had a co-worker pick the ring up in Houston (I am in Oregon) and bring it back, how do I know this?

Well, I was like I can come on these days….. and he was like, ah, I need my second hand man at work before I can have you here. I am like WTF? seriously. As I knew it didn’t matter if the worker was there or not. Sure, he probably couldn’t leave the office but he never leaves anyway. But then he just says "Didn’t it occur to you that I NEED HIM HERE BEFORE YOU CAN COME BECAUSE HE MIGHT JUST HAVE SOMETHING I NEED?"

Yeah, that pretty much shut me up and now I am like, oh, but I want to wait because I want it to be happy and exciting and romantic. He already tells people we are engaged, I don’t because I don’t really feel engaged just yet. I will marry him of course, just as you will marry your mate. 

But maybe you could look at the wait period as a time for him to spend a little extra energy courting you again. Drive him nuts. 

I can’t imagine how they can have it in their possession for so long and not propose.

Mine will only have the ring a week before i show up as it took this long for it be ready. So, I shouldn’t give him such a hard time.


I wished I could convince you to relax. Remember, he loves you. And you’ve already come this far. Maybe the wait is really worth the excitement and anticipation you feel now.

Post # 6
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

This is a really hard time.  Once I knew my Fiance had the ring from my aunt he was going to use for my ring, I got really impatient and upset.  For me, I knew that we would probably get engaged in March – because he told me that – so I knew I had to wait that long.  When he asked in February, I was plesantly surprised. 

You could tell him to give up on making it "perfect" because honestly, proposals aren’t perfect.  Everybody says they are perfect and worth the wait, but its not always true, and in the end, you may be madder because he waited for it to be perfect.  If you want the perfect proposal and the great story though, you have to wait.  In the meantime, I recommend keeping busy and not making yourself available for disappointment.  If you are just sitting around waiting for it to happen, it is really like watching water boil.  I did this for awhile – I tried to make sure we had at least some time available every weekend for a potential proposal – but it drove me nuts and had me crying every time it didn’t happen.  So I gave up and started to pack things into the weekends.  My Fiance had to catch me on a Sunday night after I had been out all day running errands and playing hockey, because I had been too busy for him to propose before that.  

Post # 7
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh man, I totally understand. We went ring shopping twice in March. Now he knows what I want, and has to work with the jewler to buy a diamond and order the platinum and create the ring. The problem? He’s a MAJOR procrastinator on big things. I’ve been harassing him to get a passport since OCTOBER and still no effing passport. It might be September before we get engaged for all I know… Gah!

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