- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I once told my mom that I wasnt sure I would have children and she started crying and said that I was only saying that to hurt her. Oh boy..I love my nieces and nephews, would I want to take them home with me for the week? Absolutly not. Kids cost a fortune, and they are at you all. the. time. if you want sleep or a moment to sit down, if they are conscious forget about it. I hate hearing my friends say they want a baby, babies grow up, quickly. I dont think Ive ever heard someone say they wanted a two year old…
yes! actually looking into getting him to have a vasectomy. I dont enjoy kids for the most part and im not stopping my life to live it for someone else. no kids never!!!!
@mscuppycake: I used to say I didn’t want kids in my 20s and people would always tell me I’d change my mind. Now I’m 33 and I still don’t want kids, and people are still saying I’ll change my mind. I’m sure when I’m in my 40s people will be saying the same thing. Apparently it’s very difficult for people to comprehend that there are opinions/view points that vary from their own.
Fiance and I have recently talked about it and surprised ourselves with the adamancy of not wanting kids ever. Kids are great if you can play with them and then hand them back to the parents when they need food/fuss/you want a nap, lol. There are so many reasons to not have kids, and just as many to have them. I think in both cases you’ll probably find someone who’s a downer that will argue against whichever you choose.
My dad recently mentioned grandbabies….can’t wait for that conversation. Luckily enough I have two sisters, so I’ll just pass the kid responsibilites to them, lol.
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Me! I’m 26, DH is 27, and we don’t see ourselves changing our minds about children anytime soon! I’m picking up our two dogs that we’re adopting today, and that’s as close to children as we plan on getting until further notice!
Same, we are ‘DINKS’ and happy. 29/30. Neither of us has ever imagined being a parent. We’ve got nieces and many of our friends have young children now..and we love to visit for an hour or so then leave on our merry way. We have felt this way for 10 years. My best friend of 25 years just had a baby, and it was lovely, beautiful, joyous, happy and.. Then I went back to enjoying my life.
FH and I are early 20s, like 21 and 23 and we do want a child, but definitely not anytime soon. And we respect other people’s decisions not to have kids. I have literally had people ask us when we’re having a baby because “we don’t want to miss our window.” That was when I had just turned 20! And the more offensive things people have said… “you can’t know real love until you have a child” and “you aren’t a real woman until you’ve given birth.” So I can somewhat understand where you’re coming from. People will always get in your business and tell you what’s “right” but it’s your life so live it how you want to!
The more i think of the idea of having kids, the more i dont want them. I’m 28 and still have so much i still want to do before i can think about having kids. I want to travel, adopted a puppy, figure out what i want to do career-wise…But i also tend to keep that just between SO and I because i know others whill judge or say something. My co-worker a while back and talking about how she didnt want kids and the woman sitting next to her just compeltely unleashed the whole ‘kids are wonderful’ arguement and it wasnt pretty…Yes they are wonderful, but that doesnt mean they’re for everyone.
Fiance and I don’t want kids. We do want to have 3 or 4 dogs. She loves cats. I have had a few cats that were mean so I am wary of cats, but my brother has a cat I love so I know it depends on their personality. So if there’s a way to test their personality before getting one I think I’d be open to getting another cat.
Meanwhile my mother started asking me maybe 2 years ago when I was going to have a baby lol. Some of her friends are grandparents already, and I know she’s just excited and wants a grandbaby to spoil but between me being gay and my brother totally playing the field and living the bachelor life, I think she’s afraid it’ll never happen. I have another brother but he is only 16. So there’s still time! I think she puts the pressure on me because I’m her only daughter.
I am going to be an auntie in September though! Because Future Sister-In-Law is pregnant. I wanted her to get pregnant 4 4ever. Finally I gave up and then she got knocked up.
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