(Closed) Any 35+ first time brides out there?????????

posted 9 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 36 and I got engaged at the beginning of the month.  This is the first time for both of us – we’ve been dating/cohabitating for nearly 14 years. Although I’m excited to be getting married, I’m not particularly excited about a wedding lol

Post # 33
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hi – I turn 38 next week and am also getting married in August this year for the first time. It will be a church wedding and we are both gettting married for the first time. We are having a fairly low key wedding and trying to keep it small. Saying that, my mother is so excited – it is her first time to experience being the “mother of the bride” so she is over the moon (my sister has children but has been engaged for the past 12 years).

Saying that – I don’t think being over 35 is too old to get married – it’s whenever you fall in love and feel the time is right!

 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Glasgowbound:  I hear you. I’ll be 36 when I marry this May, and turn 37 a month after the wedding ๐Ÿ˜‰ It’s not so much the age that’s the issue for me, it’s, how do I get my twenties metabolism back???  I want to be in good shape for my wedding–I want to look fabulous in my dress, what bride doesn’t? It’s just, in my twenties I could cut out the desserts and exercise a couple days a week and boom! my stomach was flat. Now just walking past a dessert makes me retain water. I’m just so frustrated!!! I bought a treadmill this winter and have been running a couple miles every night. I’m also eating more sushi. Any other suggestions to jump start a late thirties metabolism??

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ll be 38 when we get married; Fiance will be 42. Second marriage for him; first for me. 

I don’t feel old to be married, but then again my two closest friends got married in their mid-30s and just about everyone else I know well got married in their 30s.

All the people i know who got married under the age of 30 moved in different circles to me, or were from different cultural backgrounds. So 30+ feels absolutely normal.

There was no opportunity for me to get married before now, and even now it’s not something that feels essential for me to do. (We’ve been living together for two years, own a house together etc.) It’s probably more to formalise things for his children. Also, in FI’s job (he teaches in Catholic schools) de facto relationships aren’t really taken seriously – I’m not saying that they’re looked down on – but it’s almost like they consider him to be a single perosn and maybe even a lesser person until he gets married.

That said – I still did squee like a little girl when he proposed. Then I started swearing, so things were back to nomal LOL. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@hon75:  Hello other Aussie born in 75! Cool

Damn, I wish I had your mum! Mine was completely underwhelmed when I told her I was getting married. Could be because my younger brother got married 5 years ago, she had to fork out $$ for it and has been turned off weddings ever since. Also because we live in different states. 

We said we were having low key, In fact first we said we’d elope. But now our small wedding has turned into 70 guests and maybe as many as 100 at the reception. 

The interesting bit will be the dress – I go shopping next week. I’m pretty sure I don’t want to wear white or even a pale colour at all, but I’m going to try on white dresses anyway. I have a feeling I’m wasting my time and am going to feel like I’m mutton dressed as lamb, or playing at bridal dress-ups, if I wear white. Fortunately, at least it will confirm that I’m doing the right thing (wearing a colour). 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I just turned 37 2weeks ago. I’ll be married in 7 weeks. Neither of us has kids and it the 1st marriage for both of us. Fiance is 38. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. I was able to travel and work on my career and accomplish so much in my life. I feel like I really got to know myself, and now I get to share a wonderful life with the right man.

 

@ToHtvatskaWithLove: I tried Isagenix to jump start my weightloss and it worked. It wasn’t easy, but its what I used combined with exercise when I first started. I had gained so much weight and I wanted to look fabulouat for the wedding. It was pricey, but it really helped that 1st 20lbs come off, and kept me motivated.. I stopped taking it after a few months and just kept working out and watching what I ate. I’m back to what size I was 10 yrs ago.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 35, and I’ll be 36 when we get married. It’s both of our first marriage (hopefully the last) Planning is too much stress! ๐Ÿ™‚  I feel like this is the perfect time for me.  I never wanted to get married in my 20’s, maybe I never met the right guy.  Whatev’s, I don’t stress about age. Like somebody said “age aint nothing but a number”  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 40
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Newbee

@Glasgowbound- I’ll give you some love. But I don’t have any “old bride” love to give cause there’s nothing “old” about me! LOL! I turned 38 yesterday. I’m looking forward to getting married for the first and last time October 5, 2013 and I’m simply fabulous. As many other Bees have said, the 20-something me would have had no business getting married. Between 25-35 I earned 2 degrees, developed my career, traveled internationally and bought my own home which I’ve owned for more than a decade. The time and effort I tok to better understand who I am and what I need/want was priceless! This is one reason I was able to meet someone who complimented me so well – I had defined and refined who I was. Waiting until I was better prepared to make the sacrifices and compromises which come with marriage was best for me. Not to mention I found someone who is worth it

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Shout out to all brides I am 48 and loving it…Best thing I ever did was wait until this age. Girls are grown and I can focus on my Fiance and myself. I am so proud of all of us for being brave and making the decision to get married when everyone probably counted us out.

 

BIG HUG TO ALL

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m 42 and my groom is 43.  We graduated from high school together (but didn’t really know each other because I only went there one year) and reconnected through FB this past April.  I am soooo glad I didn’t get married in my 20s, because I feel like a completely different person now.  I would date guys over the years but always thought “if only he would change ____” and my friends always told me I was too picky.  Well, I knew from our first conversation that he was “the one” and I’ve never had a doubt.  I hear people talk about fighting and trust issues and I’m so happy that I don’t have any of that drama…just love and appreciation for one another ๐Ÿ™‚  I think one of the greatest things about getting married later in life is that you realize what is out there and can truly appreciate it when you find the right one.  I tell him all the time that I never want to take him for granted.  I’m excited for all of the older brides on here!  it’s never too late for love!

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m 37 and a first-time bride and my Fiance is 34 and this is his second marriage. I am really sort of in disbelief that I’m actually getting married. I really didn’t think it would happen for me lol But I am sure glad I was able to meet the right man!

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I was just wondering where I could even introduce myself! I am 36 – will be 37 when we get married and while the soon to be MR is younger (32) when I found out his plans for the wedding/wedding party I told him he either married me in 13 or we weren’t having any of it! It’s a first wedding for both of us and neither of us have kids but I am SLIGHTLY freaking out. 

Huge Catholic service – 5 attendants each, all sorts of family involvement and I am in OVERLOAD.  

We have the church reserved, hall booked, found a caterer that can accomodate what has become an invite list of 350 (ish) within my budget and I am well on my way to figuring out (through lurking the boards) who to make my custom dress (cause I’m also not skinny on top of being OLD) and I’ve only been engaged since 2/2 … I have 9 months and one day and I think I’ve been informed about 40 times already that I am behind.

Am I too old for this !? I want what I want and it’s going to be classy and fabulous and accomodate the Mr’s desires — isn’t that what this is all supposed to boil down to?  I am, so thankful as I write this that I am older because honestly even 5 years ago this stress would have me running for the hills with a date and a chocolate bar in hand.

I need a drink. 

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