(Closed) Any 35+ first time brides out there?????????

posted 9 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 77
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@thebrazenhead:  Fine you can join, you can be the “baby” of the bunch of us =)

 

I agree with all of you, now had you asked me in my 20’s how I would feel being married at 37 I would’ve gasped and said no way.  At one point in my life I said if it didn’t happen by the time I was 35 I would NEVER get married.  Now here I am…  I do not feel old at all and am glad that I waited.  I am hoping that by being more mature and knowing what I want that I can beat the 50% and actually do the work to make this marriage last until we’re old and gray…and if he divorces me then I’m ok with being old and gray and never getting married again too. One thing I did say is that I would do it one time and one time only.  That part I will always stick to! =)

Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ll be 35 when we marry in October – FH is 35 now. Glad to see a lot of mid-30s brides on the Bee!

Post # 79
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 37 and getting first-time married in just under two weeks! 

I don’t regret waiting because I’m so much more mature and therefore found a mature mate, and I’m certain my marriage will last forever. I’m really glad I was patient enough to wait for the right one to come along. I was 34 (almost 35) when I met him and it’s been really wonderful. 

Yeah, I’m worried about having kids, whether it will be possible or if they will be healthy- just a thing that comes with approaching 40… but I wouldn’t want to change a thing about my choices. I’m proud that I didn’t settle or have kids when I wasn’t ready.

And being an older bride hasn’t made this journey of planning a wedding any less special than if I’d been 21 like my mom was when she got married! 

Smile

Post # 80
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BridetoBeJilly:  We are also much less likely to get bullied into things we don’t want at 40 than 20 (chances are we are paying for the wedding and have more say in the wedding).

Post # 81
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Ill be 35. 

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We just got married! I am 42, he is 43.

Post # 83
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Worker bee

I will be 39! He will be 41 …but we have both been married before.

Post # 84
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I got engaged when I was 34 I will be married when I turn 36.5. I feel weird my sister has been married for 7 years and I’m the oldest, so I feel like a old maid who is finally getting hitched.

Post # 85
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Dunes House - Hilton Head Island, SC

I’m 37, and my Fiance is 39 – it’s our first time for both of us. On one hand, I’m one of the last of my friends to get married (and have endured years of “so when are you getting married?”), but on the other hand, if I had married the guy I was with in my 20s, I’m almost positive we’d be divorced by now, and if not, I definitely wouldn’t have met my Fiance. So, everything worked out in the end.

Post # 86
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Helper bee

@PrincessIncognito:  Me too! I thought I would never meet the right person! Sometimes the best thing you can do is wait! I am very happy for you ๐Ÿ™‚ and me ๐Ÿ™‚ Congrats

Post # 87
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’m in the same club. Got engaged at 34 and will be married at 36. Sometimes its good and sometimes is SUCKS. Just be aware, I’m a realist and a glass-half empty kind of girl. 

So I’m already stressing about babies and what our retirement finances will be with kids in college when we’re suppose to be getting read for retirement . Sometimes it feels like we’ve already lived half our lives without each other. But I stop myself and remind myself that I could have gotten married, but I probably wouldn’t have stayed married. 

Now I’m much more prepared with an understanding of what marriage is and I have the maturity to work through the ups and downs enjoying the highs and lows.

I force myself to stop believing the hype about women over 35 having kids and enjoy the ride. If Halle Berry can have a baby at 46, I got nothing to worry about.

Everything happened at the right time for the right reasons! 

Post # 88
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

1st (and only!) timer at 35+ here ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Glasgowbound:  I’m 33 and my Fiance is 45.  We’ll be 34 and 46 respectively when we get married.  I think it provides a different perspective, we see getting married as the meeting of two adults who want to be married.

Post # 90
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am 35 and getting married at 36! My Fiance is 30. ๐Ÿ™‚ This will be my first – and last – and I have no kids. I was engaged at 26, but I am sooo glad I broke that one off. I was able to finish college, travel all over, enjoy being single, party, etc. The way I look at it, there are so many 20-something marriages that did not end well, so I basically skipped my first divorce! LOL I get stressed out about kids and whatnot, but we are taking it one step at a time and just enjoying the moment! Cheers to all the 35+ bees!

Post # 91
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m 35 and never been married. Add me to the list! My FH is 38. 

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