(Closed) Any 40+ brides TTC?

posted 6 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 4
Member
5 posts
Newbee

I am not TTC after 40 (I am 26) but I wanted to tell you my mom had my little brother at age 41! It is doable!

However if you haven’t conceived after three months or so I would try to see a doctor right away, as there’s not much time to dwadle waiting for things to happen naturally.

Post # 5
Member
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m personally not over 40, but I work in the medical field and have worked with MANY women who are pregnant at age 42 or beyond. Some medical things are more complicated, but it is totally possible.

Post # 6
Member
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t have any advice since I’m only a mere 26 but I’ll chime in to support older mothers. My aunt had my youngest cousin when she was 40+ (I think 42 to be exact) and he’s only the coolest kid EVER. I know a lot of people are weary of women getting pregnant over 40 because of the risks and what not but my cousin has been the picture of perfect health since he was born almost 7 years ago and my aunt and uncle are AMAZING parents. My uncle is 4 years older than my aunt and they seriously have more energy than most 20 something’s that I know. Sure, maybe they’ll be nearing 60 when my cousin graduates high school but 60 is the new 50 now a days and you’re only as old as you feel. Frankly, if I had to place a wager on a mom who gets pregnant in her 40’s vs. a 16 year old who had an accident, older mom will always get my vote. 

Good luck!

Post # 9
Member
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ha we will not be twins on this journey (we have 6 kids between us and the doctor told me not to have another after my first and then emphasized that again after my second with the words pine box) but I will be there as support and cheering for you.  I do know woman who have successfully done so and have great kids – one of my dearest friends had a baby at 42 last year so just make sure you do talk about all the scenarios with your husband before you get pregnant and whoot!

Post # 10
Member
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My Mom had me when she was 42, but I was a “surprise” (she actually thought she was going into menopause at the time). She was already a grandmother when I was born. I am now 54 and I had several friends try to conceive in their early 40s and  it’s do-able, but often not very easy and sometimes became an expensive process. Then again, there’s a fair amount of Amish near where I live and it’s fairly common for them to have kids into their early 40s.

As someone who grew up with an older Mother, I really didn’t notice the difference between my Mom and younger Moms until I hit middle school. It did kind of suck losing all my grandparents when I was fairly young and both parents by the time I was 30. Sigh!

As for me? If I would get pregnant now – they would have to add a new chapter in the bible and name it after me!

 

Post # 11
Member
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Me! We have been talking about it on and off since the wedding– Darling Husband is a little reluctant. We also both travel for our jobs so it isn’t always possible to be in the same city at the right time.

If the “natural” way or some medical boost doesn’t work, we’ll probably adopt. No IVF–too much trouble and I am probably too old for most programs (43).

Post # 12
Member
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We’ve thought about it. FH would love to have a child of his own (he loves mine but it isn’t quite the same honestly). If we had the money so I could stay at home then I might consider it but at this point it will probably never happen. It’s too bad…he would be an amazing father…he’s an amazing stepfather. We’ve also talked about maybe being foster parents…not the same thing but would still be awesome. 🙂

Post # 14
Member
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just to give you some encouragement:

My aunt my marriage had my twin cousins when she was 45. They are perfectly healthy!

Post # 15
Member
12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@luvmydwight – you are definitely not alone. My fiancee and I  both recently turned 40. We will be married this August and eager to start a family (or at least try to) right after the wedding. Neither one of us have kids but have always wanted them. Like you, I get concerned about our age and if we will even be able to conceive and if we do, if everything will be ok medically. I think these concerns are natural at our age and frankly I’d be more concerned if I things give any consideration to these factors. I guesshe trick is not to worry about it too much ( easier said than done) and don’t let concern prevent you from pursuing what could  be a wonderful miracle in your lives! Best wishes to what and your future!

Post # 16
Member
12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@luvmydwight – you are definitely not alone. My fiancee and I  both recently turned 40. We will be married this August and eager to start a family (or at least try to) right after the wedding. Neither one of us have kids but have always wanted them. Like you, I get concerned about our age and if we will even be able to conceive and if we do, if everything will be ok medically. I think these concerns are natural at our age and frankly I’d be more concerned if i didnt give any consideration to these factors. I guess the trick is not to worry about it too much ( easier said than done) and don’t let concern prevent you from pursuing what could  be a wonderful miracle in your lives! Best wishes to your future!

The topic ‘Any 40+ brides TTC?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors