Post # 1
Even though I’m a bride-to-be, I do not fit this category (I’m 26 and have no children), but my mom did in 2001. Neither I nor my sister had a role in her wedding, but both of us attended nonetheless.
At the time of her wedding, my mom would’ve been a couple of months shy of her forty-third birthday. I would’ve been 16 and in the back half of my sophmore year of high school. (In fact, the wedding happened sixteen days after my sixteenth birthday.) My sister, on the other hand, would’ve been 21, in college, and already living on her own. Needless to say, our now stepfather (who moved from Canada all the way to Kansas) had more of a role in my life than in my sister’s. (And after he had married Mom, whenever Mom had to go out of town on business–which was about two weeks a month on average, it was basically me and him, and yes, we did get along fairly well in her absence.)
So, any of you have sons or daughters who are teenagers or adults? Will they have a role in the wedding, or will they simply be guests?
Post # 3
I am 40 Darling Husband is 41 and we both had teenagers. We left it to them what they wanted to participate in. My son really doesn’t enjoy gatherings where Dhs son was thrilled to help everywhere he could. Thinks like that, IMO, will naturally vary from child to child.
Post # 4
My Mom got married at 42 and my sister was.. 19 I think? (Freshman in college.) I was a sophomore in HS and my (other) sister was a senior in HS. We were all her “maids of honor” and her brother walked her down the aisle.
Post # 5
I was 44 when I married in April. At that time my kids were 16 and 18 yrs. of age. We had an intimate gathering here at home. When the pastor asked who was giving me away, my dad answered then my son answered. That was the extent of their involvement – other than my daughter setting up the cupcakes on the stand and me making both of them help to clean the house.
Post # 6
My Fiance and I have been together for 13 years. We are getting married next October and all three of my kids will be in our wedding. My daughter (26) will be a bridesmaid, my oldest son (24) will be a groomsman, and my youngest son (18) will be walking me down the aisle and also doing a reading. My grandson (5) will be our ringbearer. I’m so happy that they all accepted our requests to be in our wedding.
Post # 7
I have 2 teenagers, my son is 17 and my daughter is 14 and i am ugh 43 lol My son will not be walking me down the aisle due to the fact that he hates weddings and a very unfortunate incident during the Mother Son cotillion dance that I believe has left us both scarred for life LOL However he has agreed to answer the minister and give me away.
My daughter is my only attendent (MOH) and has gone dress shopping with me and put up with all my chatter about the wedding and I am not sure how I would do this without her – here is a recent picture of us from a couple of weeks ago before her dance recital . . .
she is 1000 times prettier than I have ever been so hoping people will stare at her and not me during the ceremony. She has also threatened to hit me over the head with a bouquet (either hers or mine it depends) if I start boo hoo-ing during the ceremony 🙂
Post # 8
I am 42. My 21 yr old son is walking me down the aisle and my 14yr old daughter is my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Here’s a recent pic just cuz I want to show them off.
Post # 9
I have a 19 year old, a 16, 12 and one year old (what were we thinking) lol, the two oldest are girls so they are my bridesmaids, my son is 12 and will be an usher and the baby who will be two by then will be our Ring Bearer.
Post # 10
my son will be 27 and he is standing up with me. he will probably walk me down the aisle if i choose not to walk alone.
Post # 11
I just got remarried two weeks ago. I am 43 and my sons are 12 and 14. My My 12 year old gave me away and the 14 year old was a groomsman. My husband’s has a 16 year old son and he was the best man. It was great having them in the wedding.
Post # 12
@mypinkshoes: I will be marrying my college sweetheart on June 30. He asked me to marry him 24 years ago, but due to circumstances we went our seperate ways. We each married and had children and divorced. We are now back together with children who at the time of the wedding will be 18, 16, 13, and 11. There are three girls and one boy. My Fiance will be escorted down the aisle by his daughters (13 & 11) first, and I will be escorted by my children (daughter 18 & son 16). They are the only ones in our wedding party as we wanted to include them all as much as possible.
Post # 13
@waited24years: Sounds great! I’m sure it will be so memorable with your children being part of your special day.
Post # 14
My daughters are 23, 21 and 20. They are my Bridesmaids and Flower Maiden. My 20 yo has always wanted to be a flower girl, but we didn’t know anyone getting married back then.
My Fiance has a step son and step daughter and 4 grandkids from his ex wife. His stepson will be a groomsman and the 13 yo grand daughter will be jr bridesmaid, the 11 yo and 9 yo will be banner children. The 5 yo will not do anything as he is a mama’s boy. The step daughter we have not heard from, she lives in Michigan and probably will not be coming.
Post # 15
I am soon to be 43 and this is my first marriage. My kids are 27(girl) 26(boy) and 21(girl), and my girls are more excited than I am. My sister will be my maid of honor, and my daughters are bridesmaids. My wedding is this coming May.
I have 3 grand-girls and a grand boy, and Im trying to involve them in the wedding too. My fiance has grands that live with us, and everybody wants to be involved! YIKES!!
Post # 16
My daughter is 15 and my soon to be stepdaughter is 13. I have a son 24, and my Fiance has sons 17 and 24. My daugher is my Maid/Matron of Honor, his daugher is a bridesmaid (there are 6 girls in our wedding total) and all our sons are standing up with Fiance along with 3 of his friends. If my father’s health doesn’t allow him to actually walk me down the aisle (he is having trouble walking and we will be on sand) my son will walk me out and Dad will meet us at the front so he can give me away and my son will then take his place with the guys. We are all very close. It’s truly been awesome blending the families and I can’t wait til we are “official” but it’s already family.