(Closed) Any academic adviser bees out there? (warning: long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Send her a handwritten note.  This is what we do for a living, and hearing how we helped, in no matter what small way, is enormously gratifying.  It would be inappropriate to give her anything else, and she probably couldn’t take it.  At our university, we can only accept edible gifts that can be shared by the whole department.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Ditto! It will mean the world to her to know that her words helped. So often we do the best we can, but have no way of knowing what happened to the student later, if we did more harm than good, etc.

You don’t have to spend a dime – just a note is appropriate. And while handwritten is best, even an email would serve to convey your appreciation.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

p.s. I’m so sorry that this loathesome excuse for a man hurt you.  You didn’t deserve, and I hope he rots in hell.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@FloretteLiz: Good for you – that’s a much healthier sentiment. Hugs and good luck!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@FloretteLiz:  I used to be an academic advisor at a university, and now I’m teacher in K-12.  Just send her a hand-written thank you note.  I put all my thank you notes/cards from students on my wall and it makes me feel special. 

Secondly, I would go back and ask her if your school has any free/reduced counseling if you don’t have medical insurance.  You sound like you could use some counseling to get through this.

Last, there is a great book called Toxic Parents by Susan Forward, Ph.D. that has several chapters on abusive parents/step-parents and strategies to help you cope and deal with the issues that come along with it.

 

I hope this helps 🙂  Good luck!

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