(Closed) Any Advice?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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46411 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would start by having a talk with your Fiance to ensure that you are still on the same page about this.

If he is in agreement with sticking to your original plan, I would have him deal with the issue as they are his family. He can just tell them that the two of you made your decision a year ago and they have been aware of your choice of a child free wedding for a year.. FULL STOP. No excuses, no explanations.

Post # 4
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1077 posts
Bumble bee

@JerseyBeachGirl:  Just say no. Don’t explain, it gives them something to try and “fix” to get their way. Just say “I just don’t think that would work, but I really appreciate hearing your thoughts”.

If they push you or the Fiance just say that it’s too last minute for you to change the plans, and and that the neccesary additions to make it a more kid-friendly event weren’t budgeted for because you as a family had already reached a conclusion. I think having the Fiance deal with it is a good idea too!

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@JerseyBeachGirl:  I would say something along thelines of “We we talking about this a year ago we came to the conclusion of them not being in the wedding. So I planned our wedding with them. At this point in time, it is too late to add them to the wedding. We would have to get dresses and assessories. I’m sorry but I’m standing by the decision we collectively agreed on.”

Post # 7
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

 “Who’s day is it anyway? Why are they so adamant? They really must want their kids to steal the show . . . agh, so annoying. . . .”

I completley agreed with you,actually still do about the main issues, but I seriously laughed out loud when I read that. I am sure they just think they will look cute and don’t want to get a sitter. I doubt they are seriously trying to “steal the show”.

I would definately have Fiance put his foot down. You guys made the decision long  ago to have an adults only wedding so stick to your guns and don’t feel bad about it.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

You should have your fiancé deal with it – it is his family after all. Inviting the kids would mean guest list additions, extra seating, etc. Maybe they will consider that a good reason?

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