Post # 1
I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my bf’s wedding which is very soon. I wrote about the issues I had with her bachlorette party in a previous post under “Parties.” Anyway, the Maid/Matron of Honor just emailed the other 3 bridesmaids and decided she wants to give the bride a monogramed bracelet as a gift from all of us. I am not sure why or the purpose of the gift. I really do not want to spend anymore money. I have spent a lot money already on shower and bach party. I know the bride would never where a monogramed bracelet, but that is besides the point. The Maid/Matron of Honor is having trouble finding a bracelet in a reasonable price range- the lowest price she found is $50 a person. She asked what we want to spend. I dont want to spend anything! I just got married and money is tight! and as I said before, I have already spent a lot of money for her wedding. Should I just suck it up and pay or say something?
Post # 3
I would just say that it’s a lovely thought but that you are sorry and can’t afford to go in on the bracelet.
Post # 4
Hm. What is this gift for?
IF it is for a bridal shower or a wedding present it’s not really an appropriate gift because it is a personal item that would not be used by the groom. Just tell them you’re getting your own gift but thanks anyway.
IF it is for a personal shower at the bachelorette party then this is appropriate and you can choose to either go in on the bracelet or get your own gift.
IF it is just a random present not related to any traditional gift giving event, then it’s really up to you. If you don’t want to go in you don’t have to, but be prepared for some questions from the other bridesmaids.
So overall, you need to give gifts for any showers and as a wedding gift. Beyond that there is no obligation for gifts. Bracelet or otherwise.
And, by the way, that’s way expensive for a monogram bracelet. I have one that was about $30.
Post # 5
These guys said it all. I’d just say straight up that you don’t care to go in on a bracelet, but thanks anyway.