Post # 1
Hi everyone! So I went shopping for the first time about a week and a half ago, and I have an appointment at the same salon this Thursday, to try on more dresses and the one that has become my front runner. I guess I am just having issues with the idea of the commitment and the fact that I didn’t have one incredibly clear, this is IT. It was more like… wow, I really like this, I can see myself in it. I can definitely picture myself in this dress, it fits what I want, and I think it makes ME look good (ie skinnier than I am).
I really like the salon I went to and would love to order my dress from there, but I guess part of me wonders if I should also look elsewhere to be extra sure. But then at the same time, I think that may be overcomplicating things when the best dress is already right there in front of me.
So I guess I am asking if anyone has advice – just calm down and order the dress, assuming I still feel the same having tried more on at the same salon? Or maybe try to get an appointment at another salon before this next appointment, in order to feel like I’ve explored my options? I am probably overthinking this… well I know I am. Just wondering what you all think!
I’ll add some photos here. One thing to keep in mind is that the sample dress was about a size too small, and I would tuck the corset ties in instead of leaving them out. This is Maggie Sottero Payton, in case anyone is curious. It looks so different on me than it does online!
Post # 3
Well when my sister was shopping for her dress, she had 3 or 4 that were her favourites, and one that she liked in particular. She invited all the BMs and of course our mom – and did a little fashion show in the salon. Turned out her favourite, was not our favourite. BUT the one after – as soon as she walked out of the dressing room, everyone went "ooooooh – THAT’S IT!" Sometimes it helps to have some 2nd, 3rd, and 4th opinions!
Post # 4
I would try another salon, just so you are not wondering for another year! I wanted to buy one of the dresses at the first place I tried them on at, and a girlfriend convinced me to keep looking. At first I was really annoyed with her, but when I went out again I found an even better dress at a lower price. (Though I’m still sleeping on it).
Post # 5
Thanks, MrsT2Bee! Also, we’re date twins!
I took my mother and my Maid/Matron of Honor along with me, and on Thursday I’ll have another close friend, plus my mom. And I’ve shown the dress to a lot of people in photos… they all say it’s beautiful and they like how it looks, but no one has said, yes that is DEFINITELY the one… I guess it’s hard to know. My Maid/Matron of Honor was saying she’ll think it’s a really good choice if I do choose it, but everyone is being too nice I guess!
Post # 6
It looks beautiful one you, but you’re in no hurry, so take your time and try a few more on. I have a feeling a lot of dresses are going to look amazing on you!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. Having just posted this, I think the obvious answer is that I should try more salons, if I was totally totally sure, I wouldn’t have posted. So I will probably try to get some appointments for the next few days, and if my mind just keeps wandering back to this dress, I’ll know!
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Your wedding isn’t until Summer of 2010? I would recommend waiting a bit before you buy a dress. Especially since you didn’t have strong feelings that this dress is the one. Give it some time and let some of your other planning come together before you commit! By the way, it looks great on you!
Post # 9
I wold say def keep looking around if you dont love it. You’ve got plenty of time to really shop around to know if that is the best dress for you. And know that not everyone ahs a "Ah-ha!" choir of angels singings "The ooooneeee!!!" moment. I didnt. I put on my dress, was pleasantly surprised, thought it was fun and pretty "me". Then I wandered around the store and helped other brides to be and offered my opinions etc. 90 minutes later, when my mom pointed out how long I had been in the dress, I started thinking "but I like my dress". MY dress…. which i refused to take off for more than an hour. hmm… I hit up a few more shops and kept comparing them to "my dress". A month later I decided that "my dress" was great, and ordered it. I never had a THE ONE moment, and never regretted my dress.
Post # 10
Thanks mdarrah! I realized after posting this originally how silly it was – I was really just looking for confirmation of what I already realized, which was that I should shop around if I was feeling that way. So the long and short of it is, I did shop around, and I even found another dress I was really liking. But then I saw that dress in photos and it wasn’t as good as I thought, and I went back to try on the original dress, and I had my moment – not a sudden A HA one, but the moment where I just knew it was my dress. So, I went ahead and took the plunge and ordered. It was interesting, I felt like a burden had been lifted and it was only then that I got emotional – I’d been more analytical before, I guess it’s just my personality. Once I had let go of the decision making part, I got a little teary knowing I was looking at my dress (or the sample of it, ha).
Thanks for all your help ladies! I ordered the dress a couple weeks ago and so far I have only happy thoughts, no regrets at all!
Post # 11
I’m fearful that I’ll be in the same boat as you. I have a feeling that I’ll be trying on quite a few dresses before I find the one. I would say go to another salon and look around. You look gorgeous in the dress but it’s a big investment and you don’t want to rethink your decision after you’ve already bought the dress.
Post # 12
I would definitely go to another bridal store to try on some more dresses. I think that it will provide the reassurance that you need to make such a big purchase.
Post # 13
I would keep looking. I had the same issue with my first time shopping. I found the Casablanca 1900 and fell in LOVE, but when I went the next weekend I found THE dress… the Maggie sottero COCO. It was tough, but the COCO had a WOW factor the 1900 just didn’t.
Keep looking. I even plan on going AGAIN soon… just to be sure, but I can tell you I had the IT feeling with the COCO… I would have ordered it then and there if I had the money.