Post # 1
I need serious help, ladies.
My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years. I am sooooooooo hoping for a proposal this year for christmas. I’m trying to not get my hopes up, because I know if I do, and that’s not what I get, I’ll be superrrr disappointed.
He’s gotten me my gift, and he and his mom keep teasing me for not knowing what it is. His hint: “It’s big but it’s little; it’s not heavy but it’s not light; it’s from far away but it’s near.”
His mom says the first part should be a dead giveaway. I want to think he means it’s a big deal but it’s something small (aka RING!) but I keep telling myself other things it could be. For example, I LOVE elephants. Big but small = real elephants are big, an elephant-related gift is not. See what I mean?
I need help from my bees. How do I keep from gettting my hopes up? I think I’m beginning to annoy my best friend with all of my proposal talk. And, based on his hint, is there anything else you think it could be?
Love, HaleyBooms <3
Post # 3
In my personal experience, there was no way to keep from getting my hopes up. I just tried to keep my mind off of it as much as possible. Maybe make all the gifts for everyone on your list so you have lots of crafting to get through? Read a new book? Find a new TV series to get lost in on Netflix? Bakes lots of cookies for everyone in your life (mailman, hairdresser, regular barista, ect.) Just try not to worry, what will be will be. Whether or not you get engaged for Christmas you still love him. A ring on your finger doesn’t mean your commitment is any more or less legitimate.
Post # 4
@HaleyBOOMS: I’m in the same boat as you! I, too, am hoping for a proposal && I love elephants as well! I also agree with PP in that you should focus on the reason for the season…and not getting a proposal is not the end of the world, or your relationship. Maybe he’ll be planning it for a time that means more to the two of you OR you’re definitely getting it at Christmas!
Post # 5
@MissComicBook: I’m going to try the baking cookies thing for everyone (went in the ditch the other day and wanted to bake cookies for the man who pulled me out lol). I need to do something!!! I also just learned to knit and I’m knitted him a scarf. (:
@braverbeating: Yay for engagements and elephants! haha. I was kinda hoping for it at the end of summer, when we went to an Irish festival that’s kind of a tradition for us, but no such luck lol. So I’m hoping for any time now! Good luck to you on yours!!!
and thank you both(:
Post # 6
I am in the same position. Someone on here told me to assume it’s not happening and try and convince yourself that it is happening at a later date…say Februrary. That way in your head you are psyching yourself up for Feb, and if it happens sooner it will be a nice surprise!
Post # 7
Oh my goodness HaleyBlooms, you sound like my twin! My boyfriend and I have been together for four years on the 27th Dec, I know he wouldnt do a Christmas proposal….BUT he is taking me away for the night on the 27th.
Usually I would have no reason to get my hopes up…but the history in his iPad showed he had looked up ‘The Diamond Guys’ (which is an Australian company that specifically helps guys with engagement rings), which I looked beyond and didnt really think about it until he bought up a ring convo the other day…telling me he was scared he would pick the wrong ring, but he didnt want me to help, just wanted to know what colour (yellow or white gold) and told me to think no more about….UMMMM IMPOSSIBLE!
But I feel like he isnt organised enough for it to happen on our anniversary yet I can’t help but get excited 🙁 HaleyBlooms I totally understand!!
Post # 8
Yep…in the same boat here too! So hoping for a proposal but the closer it gets to Christmas the more doubts I have. He hasn’t asked me for my Christmas wishes till today because he went shopping today and pretended over the phone he still didn’t get my present.
I decided to focus on other things: get the laundry done, clean the house, walk the dog. Anything that keeps me away from browsing jewelry stores on the internet and dreaming how my ring might look.
Post # 9
@HaleyBOOMS: well I’m no help, my bf & i have a joint account and I saw on that account he got something wotth $700 at mappins…….not very bright but boy am I thinking of things it could be…..heh heh, but I’m not going to go all crazy yet. but you never know……YEEE!!!!
Post # 10
Honestly, it sounds promising. At four years, if it isn’t a ring, they really shouldn’t be making jokes like that!
But you know, as long as you guys are on the same page and there continues to be forward progress, I wouldn’t worry too much about it, or be too disappointed. Just go into the holidays thinking “A Christmas proposal would be wonderful, but so would a New Year’s Eve proposal. A Valentine’s proposal would be so romantic, and early spring would be beautiful with all the flowers in bloom”. Something tells me you won’t have to think any further ahead than that. Keep us posted!
Post # 11
@EffieTrinket: Great advice!(: New Years Eve would be really nice too lol…. I’ll keep you posted!! Thank you!
Post # 12
@Lily_of_the_valley: That’s a great tip!! (: I’ll try to keep that in mind haha. Good luck to you!
Post # 13
@Iwouldliketobeawife: Haha that’s awesome!!! I hope it happens for you. 🙂
Men just need to be able to read our minds sometimes, I swear it would make things easier!
@tisposeroperche: That’s how I feel, too! I think I’ve almost convinced myself it won’t happen lol. But I still make myself crazy by getting on here! Good luck to you(:
@Alaric2012: Woo! Best of luck!!! 🙂