(Closed) Any advice on small jobs to make a non-bridesmaid still feel included?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I think you’re overthinking this.  ‘Guest’ at the wedding is still an honor.

If you really want them involved, ask them to do a reading or sing a song during the ceremony.

Post # 4
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

i prefer not to be a bridesmaid, but love to be involved. i did a reading last summer for one friend and will do a toast/speech this year for another friend. another great idea is to have someone be your witness!

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have her do a reading if she doesn’t mind public speaking, or if she has a great voice she can sing a song.

Also, remember that just being a guest is an honor, so if you don’t want her to feel like she is doing “busy work” then just have her there as a guest.

Post # 6
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Two of my friends were a part of the ceremony by doing readings — but I knew that their personality types would welcome and appreciate that role.

Post # 7
3267 posts
Sugar bee

Have them get their hair done with you or just get ready.

A corsage

A shout out during a speech

I don’t think a B list job makes people feel like any more then free labour. But I realise not everyone feels that way.

Post # 8
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My wedding coordinator actually asked me if I had a close friend or family member that wasn’t in the wedding party who could help her out with a few things the day of the wedding. I asked my close friend’s husband who was not in the wedding but very much a good friend of mine (since I’m best friends with his wife). At first I thought he might not enjoy that the morning of the wedding he’d be helping to do work, but it turns out he was quite honored to be in charge of helping to make sure things ran smoothly. I also gave him a small gift to thank him.

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