Post # 1
I have 4 bridesmaids- we wanted to keep the wedding party small. But I have a couple girlfriends who I would really love to have feel involved who I didn’t pick as the bridesmaids….
There’s one in particular who means a lot to me…
Any thoughts/advice on ways to include her- in the ceremony, or the reception, or even the rehearsal dinner??
Post # 3
Honestly, I think you’re overthinking this. ‘Guest’ at the wedding is still an honor.
If you really want them involved, ask them to do a reading or sing a song during the ceremony.
Post # 4
i prefer not to be a bridesmaid, but love to be involved. i did a reading last summer for one friend and will do a toast/speech this year for another friend. another great idea is to have someone be your witness!
Post # 5
Have her do a reading if she doesn’t mind public speaking, or if she has a great voice she can sing a song.
Also, remember that just being a guest is an honor, so if you don’t want her to feel like she is doing “busy work” then just have her there as a guest.
Post # 6
Two of my friends were a part of the ceremony by doing readings — but I knew that their personality types would welcome and appreciate that role.
Post # 7
Have them get their hair done with you or just get ready.
A shout out during a speech
I don’t think a B list job makes people feel like any more then free labour. But I realise not everyone feels that way.
Post # 8
My wedding coordinator actually asked me if I had a close friend or family member that wasn’t in the wedding party who could help her out with a few things the day of the wedding. I asked my close friend’s husband who was not in the wedding but very much a good friend of mine (since I’m best friends with his wife). At first I thought he might not enjoy that the morning of the wedding he’d be helping to do work, but it turns out he was quite honored to be in charge of helping to make sure things ran smoothly. I also gave him a small gift to thank him.