- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
i am very sad and sort of angry too. I am living overseas and have been ever since my fiance proposed. I have nto seen my friends or anyone standing up in the wedding for over 1 1/2 years. I am going back to where the wedding is (California) for one week to meet with vendors and see all my friends and family who live there. I have 6 girls standing up in the wedding, 4 of whom live in the area I will be. I told them over a month ago the days I will be in town. I have had such a rough time planning overseas: staing up late to call vendors, trying to organize everything, trying to picture what things will look like when I havent seen the places, my Maid/Matron of Honor has not done anything and is making my mom pay for the bridal shower, my mom lives in Florida and has been helping as much as possible but works two jobs, and my fiance is military so he is working all the time… so it has really been just me all the across the world.
Well, I tell the 4 girls when I am coming in, Air Port, Gate, Time, everything and all of them have a reason why they cannot pick me up. The plane ticket was already super pricey and b/c I am not 24 years old the insurance to rent a car will make renting a car for one week almost $1,000. So I asked all the girls, if it would not inconvenience them, if I could get rides with them instead of renting. They all said yes, but now I am stuck getting a taxi from the air port to my first dress fitting where I will be all alone. I know that they all have their own lives and I do not expect them to be with me 24/7 or anything like that. I mean I have not asked any of them for help with any of the wedding stuff because I know they have been super busy. I just feel hurt that I have been doing all of this by myself for so long and all I wanted was to go home for one week and get some type of fun wedding planning experience that I hear brides talk about. I wanted to go to the dress fitting with my Maid/Matron of Honor and my friends, but I will be alone. I wanted to go cake tasting with my fiance, but he cannot get time off of work, so I will be alone.
I do not know. Am I thinking about it too much? Should I just be fine with doing it on my own? Should I tell the girls how I feel? I am afraid if I tell them I want them to be more involved in the wedding I will be a Bridezilla. I know that being a part of a wedding has some responsibilites, but I do not know where those lines are drawn…
Please help! I am super duper sad right now.