(Closed) Any bees been engaged before and are now engaged or recently married?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yes, I had all of the red flags for a terrible first engagement but said yes anyway… However, after we broke it off I found the man of my dreams and immediately knew he was “the one” and haven’t looked back since… 9 days out from the wedding and I’m more confident than ever that he’s the one for me.  No cold feet here! 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sminthy:  Thank you! 🙂  Bad relationships really do make you realize a good one when you have it!  And a good relationship teaches you how to be a better partner than in your past relationships too. 🙂 All the best to you in your relationship.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Me! me! Me! I have had um…a couple of broken engagements. 3 if you count my sons father but I was really young! ( yeah I’m THAT girl)had a ring for all of them though. I can say I saw my FI’s worth SO CLEARLY after those relationships. they weren’t “bad” guys but they left me with some serious commitment issues. When I met Fiance, he knew all about the other guyrelationships and what went wrong because we were friends first. I used to be ashamed of a FAILED engagement but not no mo’! being engaged so many times was a little tramatizing for me. it was like “uh oh, I have done all this before…” But once we got past a booking things ( we booked our photgrapher immeadiatley and our venue soon after) it was easier and all my fears went away. The first 3 months of my current engagement were hard for me, scary as I feared it would go wrong at any moment. I knew Fiance was the ONE and it bears repeating again that I saw what an amazing man he is ( to me and my son) SO radiantly compared to the other relationships I was in. i was like OH THIS is what it’s supposed to be like! 

I can relate to feeling uneasy about being in a reltionship that you know could be “it”.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m actually FI’s 4th proposal but 2nd wife. 

I was married before as well although we were never “engaged.”

We both agree that it’s never felt this “right.”

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I was engaged once many years ago and broke that engagement, because I knew in my heart that my then-FI and I were just not on the same path spiritually, even though we were both Christians. He was a phenomenal guy and had an amazing family. I loved him, and he loved me. Our families were very similar, and everything SEEMED perfect. But, I eventually realized God had something else for me and that I could not go through with that wedding.

It took a REALLY long time (more than 15 more years!) before God eventually brought the right person into my life. However, once He did, things moved extremely quickly, and everything — including some things that seemed to involve major obstacles  — seemed to just fall into place.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Sminthy:  Oh I know what you mean! I always tell Fiance if I knew we’d end up dating I wouldn’t have told him an ounce of what he knows! And yes, the fear subsided, I had lots a good friends and long late night phone conversations to get me through it. I swear it was like PTS. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I had an AWFUL relationship with a guy I THOUGHT I loved.. Long story short, we got engaged, and I was extremely unhappy. We broke it off. I was embarrassed, devestated, hurt. Then, a little more than a year later, I met my man! He is now my fiance. It just feels right this time, and it makes last time look like a train wreck! You definitely just know!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I was engaged before, we were together for 5 years, engaged for three and I kept pushing it off, first I wanted to go to college before we got married, then I wanted to do my internship, then I wanted to study abroad, then I wanted to graduate, I kept finding reasons to push the wedding off one more year and I realized that after 4 postponings I didn’t really want to marry him.

Totally different now. I actaully WANT to be with this man for the rest of my life no matter what comes at us. In my old relationship I was constantly taking care of my ex. It was not the most ideal of relationships (It was arranged, I was young and felt trapped)

This relationship is my choice, it is completely different than before. I chose my man and we are great together. My parents are still a little iffy on the whole thing, they like him plenty and they get along but knowing that I am happy is all I need to know that it is so much better than my past engagement.  

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I notice you said you don’t want to fail. I am not trying to say anything negative about your relationship at all. But  make sure that you are in it for the right reasons (and stay in it for those reasons, too), because you do not want to marry someone just because you didn’t want another broken engagement!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yep. I was engaged for almost 2 years, he broke up with me but then tried to get back together, which I refused because I had realized what a bad relationship it was and actually felt pretty happy a lot sooner than I expected, I think I knew that relationship was dead for a long time before we officially broke up. I met my current Fiance pretty shortly after that breakup, and he had just got out of a long relationship too. It was never a rebound thing, we just met each other at the exact right time in our lives to realize how inceribly compatible we are. When we first started talking about a future together, I was really nervous to invest myself emotionally in a future that depends on someone else again. The hardest part about leaving my Ex was that my whole future plan was centered around us being together and starting a family, so being single I had no direction and that was very scary. I didn’t want to put myself in that situation again. So at the begining of our current relationship this held me back from wanting to make formal forward steps, even though we were already very close and emotionally intimate with each other (there were a few months where neither of us wanted to be the first to say I love you, even though it was sooooo obvious that we we both wanted to and were just waiting.) With time it’s gotten to be less and less of a problem in the back of my mind, but I’m a very nervous person so anything I can be nervous about will eventually creep up on me. I still sometimes worry that, even though my SO proposed, he doesn’t actually want to get married and will just string me along indefinately and never want to talk about it (this is what happened with my Ex) I get these worries when Fiance doesn’t bring up wedding stuff- but why would he? The wedding is far out, we’re not actively planning anything, and he isn’t on wedding sites all day lol. So I just have to logically convince myself there’s no problem. But the second time around definately is better, oh my god, so much better. Because it is right. Our relationship isn’t hard.  

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance was married before me when he was just out of high school.

I was engaged and broke up with my ex Fiance the day before I met my Fiance lol… 

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